Living independently

[Snooper22]

Hi I just wondered how long it took to get supported accommodation for your SEN kids? How did they get on when they moved in? My DD is nearly 22 and I've applied for supported accommodation for her but I'm worried she won't be motivated to do anything there and become a recluse. She worries me with talking to strangers online. Has anyone hot any similar experiences?

Dp's 22 is in supported accommodation but she needs round the clock support. Whether it's right for your child you will need to judge with the help of professionals. We are trying independent living for the second time soon, if this fails we'll go down the supported route

I have a 24 yr old at home (ASD moderate LDs) ; he's not able enough to live independently but because he has moderate, not severe learning disabilities trying to get support is a next to impossible :(

I'm not getting much help from my LA so I've decided to rent a room in a local HMO and try and support my DD myself. She wants to live independently so I'm hoping she can do it. She had mild LD which isn't enough for any form of support just basically left to it. The SW suggested making her intentionally homeless but I cant do that 😔.

My daughter is 21 and has been in supported living for a year.

It has been mostly positive. The staff are able to get her out each day as they're less emotionally attached and can push her if that makes sense.

She is really thriving there, when she comes home for a visit I see her regress to old habits with mum!

It took her a while to settle but she has made progress she couldn't have made at home with me.

It can take a long time depending on your daughter's actual needs & finding a suitable peer group home.
DS benefits from being with others as he takes a keen interest in what the others are doing.
So he's not lonely, they have regular optional activities (more pre-covid).
You have to find her the right place to match.