No idea if I need this board or the teenage board. Here goes....
Found out last night that my child told one of their friends that I had hit them. I did not. At most I held a shoulder and said that i wanted to give them a shake at times. They are taller & stronger than me, & I just wouldn't have done that anyway. I am so upset.
They have only had the diagnosis about 18m. at 1st they didn't accept it but now are saying it a lot.....its not my fault, its the aspergers etc.
I know they have had & are having a tough time, what with covid. They are on antidepressants after i became concerned about low mood. They are seeing councellors at college because they refuse to talk to me or DH.....the only conversations we have are 'whats for dinner' or 'can i have a lift'.
College is not going as well as they hoped & current predicted grades are low. Any attempt to help with study guidance is ignored.
I just dont know what to do, especially about the outright lie. DH thinks part of it is them playing the victim card & trying to elicit sympathy from others because they lack the social skills to communicate in more usual ways. I think he may be right.
Do I tell them I know what they said? Do I say how upset I am ? Ask them about it? I feel blindsided by this.