Dd and inappropriate behaviour with boy

[Lovemusic33]

Hi, I have posted before about my dd inappropriately touching a boy at school, school did some work with her using social stories but today I got another phone call to say she has done it again. She attends a sn school, has ASD and severe communication issues, the boy in question is apparently her boyfriend. She’s 13. School seemed to have it under control and it’s been a few months since the last incident.

I am very concerned, mainly because my dd has not been exposed to this kind of behaviour, we are a all female household (me, her and her elder sister), she doesn’t watch tv and has not had access to the internet for quite a while, I’m worried about where she has seen this behaviour. I will be talking to her when she gets home but she’s likely to shout at me and refuse to listen, her communication skills are pretty poor anyway and she has selective mutism as well as speech delay.

I fought hard for a place at this school (tribunal, went to panel many times) and it’s the only school within a 30 mile radius that can support her needs. If I take her out I don’t really have any options.

School are saying they will be doing more work with her using social stories and a male teacher will be doing work with her .

We have a social worker who is aware of the last incident and didn’t think it was anything to worry about and assured me that it’s normal behaviour for teenagers but it doesn’t seem normal to me when mentally she’s a lot younger and immature.

She may be mentally immature but will have the hormones going through her so will made her want things even if she doesn't understand.
My mum never discussed masterbation or the like with me and I had never even heard of it, but I was around your daughters age when I started doing it quite naturally. I just thought I was a weirdo at the time lol. This was before Internet etc.
Wasn't until I was older I realised what I did was normal and had a name for it.
But that's my point, hormones drive you to do things even if you don't have the understanding of why.

I guess so.
I have managed to talk to her, she covered her face and was obviously embarrassed (she doesn’t usually show emotion), I asked her if she had touched her boy friend today and I asked her if she chose to touch him or did he ask her too, she said she chose too. I spoke to her about hygiene and rules, tried to keep it as simple as I could and then changed the subject. It seems she gets quite close to this boy, they hug and hold hands so I guess they are going to try and take things a bit further as they don’t really have boundaries. Hopefully school are keeping a close eye on things.

Her hormones are driving her not her maturity. Unfortunately asd in some people especially girls can cause them to be promiscuous because they lack the inhibitions we have (thankfully not in my dd, she's not interested in men or women, but my friends dd was a nightmare alas). School and your social worker can provide you with the tools you need

Thank you stucknouse your right, I have a older dd who also has ASD but she’s not interested in any kind of intimacy with anyone, she wouldn’t even hold hands with anyone let alone do what her sister did.