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18 with AS and unrealistic expectations

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Kladdkaka · 05/11/2011 17:30

My daughter is in her final year of school (IB in Sweden) and is now making plans for university. Unfortunately her aspirations/expectations are completely out of sync with her capabilities. If I try to explain this, she completely explodes. She knows what she wants to do and that's all there is to it. This is becoming a daily war and I'm I'm at a loss as to how to handle this.

Basically she wants to go to university back in the UK and won't accept that this is impossible. There is no way she can manage it. She is very intelligent and very vocal and it's very easy for people to forget the seriousness of the difficulties she has. She falls into this category herself and will argue and bury each very serious issue under a mountain of words and then think it has gone away. Then get furious all over again when she finds out it hasn't.

The bottom line will be that she'll proceed with her plans, as she is doing filling out UCAS applications and such like. But there will come a point where she can proceed no further without my agreement (which I won't do) and then all hell will let loose.

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daisysue2 · 07/11/2011 11:27

Have you looked at the support she will be given in universities in the UK as it is quite extensive. I'm not sure how serious her difficulties are, if she needs to be with an adult supervisor all the time. What about allowing her to apply but also explaining about having another option, that maybe more realistic.

How will she pay for Uni in the UK, can you explain that financially it isn't available to her. Could you ask a teacher to talk to her about her options. Can't really offer any other options without knowing more. How independent is she now, can she live without support from her family.

SusanneLinder · 16/11/2011 12:26

I am not clear if the problems are financial or because of her ASD. If it is due to her ASD,there is quite a lot of help in the UK for people with disabilities, under the Disability Discrimination Act. The uni can assist with many things and she can get funding for laptops etc with a Disabled Student's Grant.

DH was a student and has peripheral neuropathy and has problems with writing etc. He got a scribe to assist him and has a special voice activated software on his laptop. Oxford, I know has a special group for Aspie and Autistic students.Other unis do too.

She may be able to claim DLA also ,as she comes from a EEA country, which would help financially.

Are you sure it's completely impossible?

Peachy · 16/11/2011 12:29

It's not impossible with research.

I am doing an MA in ASD at uni, and the same team that etach support teh ASD students; my friend ahs severe CP and is at university elsewhere. It can be done, with the right reserach.

Start by eamiling and calling the aplces she is interested in. I can vouch for UWN Newport, UWE and Birmingham but each one is different.

Peachy · 16/11/2011 13:20

my friend does some awareness adn advice work, maybe he would be worth contacting or just using as an inspiration?

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