desperately seeking parents of teens (sn)

[2shoeprintsintheblood]

feel that my days on the sn children's topic are over.
so need to find a new place.
dd is 15 and I am just starting transition and the big battle to keep at her school post 16

hello
ds is 13...doing ok...but my thoughts increasingly turning to what happens when he is an adult

oh I am not going there yet, scares me too much.
16 plus is going to be hard enough

Hi 2 Shoes.

We are in a similar position to you. DS in Yr11 (15), also looking at transition for post 16. Desperately trying to get him to look at local colleges.

DS is dyspraxic, GDD, low academic ability. I am dreading his exams next year; he is determined to fail, as he sees self determined failure better than trying to achieve and failing.

Issues with self harming in the past due to bullying, he has recently started truanting.
His school are crap.

Going through the statementing process currently. Desperately hoping this will be successful so that he can get some support in FE.

Just had a phone call we've been offered a Statement in Lieu. What good that is going to do is anybodies guess.

forgot to post on this thread, sorry
got the good news last week that dd will be staying at her present school and moving into their 16 plus.
so happy

My DS is 15 and has an annual review this Thursday. He has been at a great residential school for nearly 3 years and one of the benefits is that they are now building a 19-25 provision. Although a place is not guaranteed, we have a good chance and his needs are already well documented and established, I just have to hope and keep my fingers crossed that the timing is right and the LA will agree, they don't have much else to offer.

I am worried about funding
we had the first transition meeting for post 19 and they were talking about dd going to residential college, but I can't see us getting the funding, also that would only last 2 - 3 years and the only one I have looked at so far is so far away it scares me.
they now have a 19 to 25 bit at her school.
but that is residential and only 1 day a week at a college......
part of me feels we have to move her at some time(she has been there since she was 3) but it might be the best option.

My boy is seventeen, got him into a independant mainly residential school (he is the only day student there) a few months ago
did wait nine months for a placement, funding etc, am going to ask if he could stay on an extra year at the school. There is a college there as well separate from the school, hopefully he will go there until he is 25. After that I really don't know.

That sounds really positive Pazzaz. I know that you are supposed to go through the same admission process at all the various stages but I'm sure it helps if your child is already in a placement and you want them to move on to the next stage at the same placement. At least I'm hoping it helps.

Hi
My daughter is now seventeen she has ASD, and I am 56. I feel really sad reading the problems you young mums are having with schools and getting statements etc. been there, done that.
It's now time for transistion, finding the next place. She was exremely lucky to have been accepted into a residential school when she was 10, but that is now coming to an end. I have to start over again dealing with the adult service.
One small piece of advise if you are ever offered the chance of a residential place, give it some serious consideration, they are entitled their freedom and so are you.
When they are small you believe as the parent you are the most important people and only you can help, thats not the case. Think of your other children, your partners. You need to let them go.

The social services have pressureed myself into residential place at times, even yesterday I have been offered basically two nights per month, respite, completely on my own no family or friends - had a chat with my social worker about my son, there is no way, she encouraged residential care - 17yrs old severely disabled - im not interested at residential care, I think of my son and whats best for him.
He is being brought up in a loving stable home and goes to a idependant specialst autism school where he is happy to both cases
yes I could do with more of a break but not
at my sons expense.

does upset me a bit - even today

social worker - do take residential care
into consdieration

like 'why' my son is at happy at home and at school, i am only asking for a bit more respite. I havenot any other children to take into consideration, completely on my own with my boy.

Have fun everyone and good luckX sorry dribbling

and i feel that just because he attends a residential school and yes he probably would be offered a place - he has a foot in the door (he is a day student)

I dont want that for him though
I love him to bits and he is staying at home
and two fingers up to the lack of respite smiles me

In norfolk

Hi all , have a son with Downs syndrome ,who is nearly 16 , i have been offered three years in FE at his local special needs school ,he has been there since he was 11 . after that who knows . His behaviour is at present very changling , so would love to chat to other parents in this situation .