At the toddler group today, there was a very 'raw' mum whose son is going through a diagnosis of autism. It's so difficult, particularly as my DD is so severely affected (I was gushing about his fab playskills- ie: pushing the train around the track and not just stimming on it!). She's finding the whole thing very hard. She's read Let Me Hear Your Voice and I couldn't hide my despair at that book which I personally don't like (and then I felt bad for making her feel bad). Then she said, 'And what happens about job applications?' And I thought she was about to tell me about a job she was applying for. "I mean, will he have to say he is autistic on the application?" I have to say I was kind of speechless. What do you say? She doesn't want the diagnosis and I was trying to, gently, say that it opens doors in terms of intervention. Help!!!!!!!!!!