Thanks again for your kind thoughts - I imagined you all standing behind me (rather cramped however, as we were in a tiny office!).
MrsF - awww, shucks - thank you! I did get upset when we left, but only for a short while.
Well, just prior to the meeting, I was handed an envelope which turned out to be statements from the PP representative, the TA, and his class teacher. The teachers statement may as well have been written by the head as she used the same jargon, and the TA said that no one was bullied in her opinion.
The meeting itself was a bit of a farce as the head's union rep was there and he was being all up himself about the rules and how the itinery had recently changed, so no one really knew what should be following what. At one time, my sister suggested something and got halted as she "shouldn't be talking"! Idiot.
My other witness, ds's old TA, had been out the night before and had her drink spiked and hadn't got to bed til 6am, so was not on top form, bless her - rabbit and headlights came to mind.
When I asked the governors (one of whom was not a school governor, but an LEA governor - is that ok?) said they had little to no knowledge of Aspergers! I said that it was my understanding that the governors should have an understanding in their official capacity.
The head was a b as per usual, so nothing new there, and kept on repeatedly asking why I had not made a complaint about bullying prior to her coming into post, to which I replied that I could always just pop in to see the old head and she would deal with it there and then. It had taken me from September to February to get in the school to speak to her.
I also said that I would like it known for the record that in the statement she had written, there were 19 occasions where the information was incorrect (meaning she had lied through her teeth), and that her memory had obviously been somewhat confused. She DID NOT take notes at the previous meeting - but swears blind that she did, my sister and myself argued the point but she was right and we were wrong
She did keep harping on about ds's educational ability and saying how bright he was and surely he would have been unhappy if he was being bullied. I had to again re-iterate that his educational ability was not in question, his lack of social interaction was.
Overall, we were in there an hour and a half. When we went in to wait in reception, one of the secretaries said hello to ds's TA and said, "ooh, I think you left something when you went". She followed her into the office and came out laughing, but holding nothing. Later on, she told us the secretary had told her - I just wanted you to tell Mrs Chocol8 to get that b good". I did laugh!
I really don't know what the outcome will be, but when my sister went to the loo and we had a two minute break, I heard the LEA governor say in a whisper - we're on dangerous ground, which was refreshing for me, heh heh!
I think I may have left a blot on her copy book so to speak - I really hope so, but will let you know what the outcome is next week - at the meet-up if I get it on time
Ooh, by the way - excellent timing, I heard from IPSEA who called to tell me I have 6 months from ds leaving the school to make lodge a complain with the Disibility Discrimination Board.