GoodLuck Jay'sMum

[MrsFROSTgetful]

Just to wish u well tomorrow! Thinking of you!

And happy anniversary for tomorrow.

Thanks ginger....what do you think keeps me sane????? My card making is my release.....its MY time.....just added the finishing touches to your card....will post it tomorrow.....night lovey.

Yes, this made me feel all emotional too. Can only agree with others that things will get easier now that you know what you're dealing with, and that you mustn't forget that he is still your little boy, whatever labels he might or might not have picked up along the way.
Can also agree with Jimjams that hers is a lovely house to visit (even if you are NT!)
Good luck - next wee while will be a time of turmoil for you all, but you'll get through it, and Mumsnet is the best support network I've ever come across.

Hi
Was thinking of you today. Hope by now you had that glass of wine, & the rest! Can't say I know what you're going through, but as the others have said, at least now things will be explainable... Hope you sleep tonight!

Hi JM. Glad today is over with, you must be relieved to have the dx at last. No point in looking back - there's no way you can blame yourself for not seeing the signs. You've done a fantastic job so far and I have no doubt that you'll continue in the same vein. Much respect to you.

How's the hangover?!

Much love JM xxx What a helluva day.

Hope the dust has settled a little today

Have a lovely wedding anniversary.

I expect that you are feeling a bit shell shocked at the moment but hopefully relieved that you have a dx.

My ds is also autistic(not hfa} and has learning difficulties. I have followed your school problems and while my ds is in good provision at the moment I know that we have difficult times ahead.

Hope the dx makes everything a bit easier re school now.

Happy Anniversary, JM and Mr JM.

How are you feeling today Jayzmummy?
(Thanks for your comments on my thread yesterday by the way)
We had our assessment today-our DS has a definite diagnosis of AS. I know you will understand the mixed feelings I have tonight.
By the way dont feel guilty about missing the signs when your DS was younger-I did with mine too. I had him referred to the CDC at 3 because of the handflapping-but autism never occurred to me. (I thought he might be dyspraxic like one of my older DSs.) The first 2 paeds to see him when he was 4 missed it too! It was only picked up as a possibility by the 3rd paed who saw him last October when he was 5.

How are you doing, Tiggiwinkle? I was thinking of you earlier. xx

Hi Coppertop,
Thanks for asking-very mixed feelings at the moment. The assessment was pretty much as you said it would be on my thread-just lots of questions to us and observation of DS while we talked.
The dx was what we expected but, as usual, it is still a shock when you are formally told. It will make dealing with DSs school a lot easier (hopefully) as they have been bl**dy awful up to now!
Just a question of taking all the implications, long and short term, on board now I suppose.

My DH still thinks they will grow out of it......!!! ..... I have to keep telling him it's more a case of 'Growing WITH it....' in that as they get older (as i believe is the case with me) that they eventually learn the things that everyone else take for granted and think/do or feel so naturally..... but as a 'grown up' AS you still 'Think,Do'n'feel' in the AS way....except that you learn to 'switch' modes when appropriate....so you 'behave' in the right way!

(however in tesco tonight i was on my knees examining all 'large' jars of marmalade for which ones had the most 'orangey shreds'....and discovered that all the large jars had the bits all sunk to the bottom....whereas the smaller jars had the shreds mixed evenly through.....
now my point here is that it took me probably 5 minutes to 'evaluate and make a choice' about the bloody marmalade.....now whether that is related to what i believe is my (likely) AS....or bits of my Obsessive traits....I don't know..... but every day i have 'marmalade moments'(!) and people still say 'but you seem so normal' when i try to tell them that 'I feel my son's difficulties as i feltt them as a child too'.... people just see me as i am now and just accept me as scatty,forgetful and over-enthusiastic....

so for our kids like JimJams similarily said on another thread.... we may not 'expect them to be as independant etc as NT kids/adults'....but we can 'wish ' that they will...and they may well just do all the things we simply cannot imagine them doing now!

Best of luck with dealing with the school etc, Tiggiwinkle. xx

"Having a marmalade moment" will now be forever in my vocabulary, MrsF.

I'll tell you about what my psychologist calls 'The Greenehouse effect'.....and it's nothing to do with Global Warming....Just little old me and my hoarding!!!!

But that can wait for another day!

It's technically another day now MrsF so tell me tell me tell me!

think it's worthy of another thread!!!
[sniggers at the thought of the title.....and the many people clicking on it expecting to read a serious account about the effect of global warming!!!!]