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Developmental delay - any advice?

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Pages · 05/03/2005 10:33

Hi there everyone, I posted a thread a while back about developmental delay and epilim, and everyone was so helpful but I am still feeling anxious about DS1's developmental delay and wondered if anyone has any experience of this or advice re books I could read? I would like to know more about why it happens neurologically and I guess deep down what I would really like is some reassurance re the future too. I have no idea what this means for DS1/us in years to come. What's the percentages of him catching up/not catching up? Although he has come along really well developmentally in the last 6 months since he came off the epilim (he has remained fit free, and his comprehension seems to have shot ahead of his motor skills), he is still not walking or talking at 2.7 months. Does anyone have any experience of developmental delay without any other associated diagnosis?

His history by the way is that he developed absence seizures at (we think) 3 or 4 months old and became very floppy, had a febrile convlusion and was put on epilim at 9 months and stayed on it for a year during which time he made virtualy no progress in his development. He is now very active, crawling and into all his toys but still has poor fine motor skills and as I say is not walking or talking, though he is very communicative in other ways, and has good relational skills.

Sorry I haven't posted much by the way - I feel guilty that I am not able to reassure others - I read a lot of other peoples threads but don't feel qualifed to comment most of the time as everyone seems so much more experienced re special needs than me, and I'm scrabbling in the dark with no diagnosis/prognosis or anything.

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Merlot · 14/03/2005 21:23

Just wanted to say hi Elliemae . Are you new to Mumsnet? They are a lovely lot on this board and its a great place to share the ups as well as the downs

elliemae · 15/03/2005 13:02

hi merlot,

yes i am a new member, i already find this a great place as it is full of such varied information!.I have felt soo alone for so long.But i can now dare to see ahead as my dd is very slowly progressing.It is nice not to feel alone thanks for the message.

MandM · 15/03/2005 13:47

Hi Elliemae

Just wanted to say hello. I'm relatively new to MN aswell but it really is a fantastic source of support. I have one dd, who is nearly 4 and has Cerebral Palsy and Williams Syndrome.

Look forward to 'chatting' to you soon. x

Pages · 15/03/2005 19:18

Hi Elliemae

There is a PDF file on the website entitled "developmental delay"- if you can open it it gives a bit of information about GDD and how it can be caused though I would think in your DD's case there are plenty of reasons - what a tough time you have had. Sounds like your DD was just too busy surviving to develop any skills but I agree with the other mums that any progress is a good sign, and she may well surprise you in the months to come. Keep us posted!

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elliemae · 15/03/2005 19:41

hi pages

thanks will try the link again,you are very right my dd was just hanging on in there for most of her first year of her precious life.She was a twin so the first year was particulary hard as her sister only managed to stay with us for two days! my dd sure is a fighter,sorry getting a bit deep its all in the past now.how is your dd?

elliemae · 17/03/2005 07:47

hi mand M

nice to chat to all of you ,mandm you will have excuse me i am aware of cerabral palsy as my brother has it but would you mind explaining what williams syndrome is? sorry for my lack of knowlage.

Pages · 17/03/2005 08:04

So sorry about your other daughter Elliemae. You really have had a tough time. Nobody on this website minds you getting deep or upset or having a virtual scream if you need one - that's what's so great about mumsnet.

My DD is doing well in answer to your question. He is going into hospital this a.m to have a small operation - he is having grommits put into his ears. I am a bit nervous about the anaesthetic but was told at the hospital last week that as he has had glue ear every time he has been tested for at least the past 6 months (and possibly all his life) it could totally account for his speech delay. Also it affects balance as well I think so I am a bit excited too, as his hearing should be 100% better by this evening and who knows what may happen in teh weeks to come.

My main problem at the moment is that I have to starve him until 11.00. He is currently cruising round the furniture looking for his toast, which is normally on the settee in the morning!

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elliemae · 18/03/2005 20:05

hi pages

hope the operation went well?!You are right to be exited about the hearing as you already know the hearing can affect many things, my dd has congestion in her ears from prolonged oxygen and her balance is affected slightly but in time it will go.Fingers crossed for you[big changes eh!]
I found the webite thanks ,some useful information ! I suppose its hard coming to terms with the fact that our little ones are imperfect,[not to us]when they deserve the best in life and not knowing what the future brings.hope your dd wasn`t too hungry before the op.Bless

Pages · 19/03/2005 08:02

Hi Ellimae

It went well thanks and he is already walking more solidly holding one hand. Also looking at me with interest when I speak to him. Fingers crossed!

Try not to worry about DD too much. Noone knows what the future holds for any of their children, SN or NT. They are all individuals and amazing at overcoming difficulties and your DD has had more than her fair share of difficulties, so at least you have a reason why she's behind.

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elliemae · 20/03/2005 20:16

hi pages,

So pleased all looks well,when something goes well, or dds do something new isnt it great!Other parents may well sometimes take there childs development for granted knowing they will come along lovely.We however dont have that luxury ,but when they do what a reward it is!!slowly but surely that s what i say.As i am sure you all do ,my dd has a hospital appointment on tue(one of many) il keep you posted.

You are right i am lucky we have a good idea why dd is the way she is, things could have also been soo much worse, so for that i am greatful ,we take each day as it comes and love her for the wonderful little girl that she is.

Merlot · 20/03/2005 20:21

Only just caught up with this thread. So glad the operation went well Pages - great news

Pages · 21/03/2005 17:16

Thank you! Getting excited...DS is walking confidently with me holding one hand and yesterday stood alone (unconfidently!!) for several seconds on a few occasions when I let go of him. I feel sure he has the strength and balance - just lacks the confidence. I suppose when they walk at the normal age it's a lot nearer to the ground if they fall!

Will keep you posted.... and yes, we are lucky. Read your thread about your DS adoring you Merlot, and I do wonder if they love us more when they need us more - my mum always says the same thing about DS loving me so much. So sweet, though. You must have really touched him.

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