Yes from the research I’ve been doing I can see it’s how their level of care and supervision compared to those of a similar age differs. I was just concerned from reading quite a few stories across the net of how families had been rejected due to all children that age needing support/supervision etc. I think I may be second guessing myself.
There has been no request for an EHCNA - is this the assessment that would take place prior to an EHCP being put in place? (Our family support worker told me that school themselves can apply for an EHCP and she wasn’t actually certain of why this hadn’t been done - is this what you mean by EHCNA? Something that school would put forward or does it need to be me?) on one of my many meetings I was told by the school that they do have a budget to consider and that my child will never qualify for a place in a school that isn’t mainstream so they need to get used to this environment as it’s going to be where they have to come for the next few years ……..
School seem to be of the impression that as if by some miracle my child is going to wake up one morning and willingly get dressed and happily go in to school with no fears or struggle. I feel as if the possibility of being on the road to a diagnosis is completely overlooked.
I have lost track of the amount of conversations and meetings I have had with them and at this point can’t provide them with any more updates, yet still each morning I receive a call from one of the secretaries asking if my child will be going in that day. A friend had said to me that it’s not the place of office staff to be discussing what’s quite personal information and the SEN lead should correspond with me, but perhaps that’s just a matter of opinion.
Each clinic letter to date makes reference by the paed to struggles with attendance and sometimes refusal - September 2024 was the breaking point and now we are where we are, but I informed the school way before my child even started Reception of what our circumstances were (my eldest was already there)
Headteacher and other staff have watched/attempted to coax with me for up to 40 minutes on the car park just to get my child out of the car, sometimes barely able to breathe through crying
I have basically had to fight tooth and nail just to get a break in the sensory room prior to now and that wasn’t always followed through.
My child would tell me about different struggles and the responses from staff when they tried to mention them - I think my child has reached a point of complete shutdown as they don’t feel reassured by what’s promised and then what actually takes place during the school day.
A couple of years ago my child had worked themselves up over a Christmas production due to struggles with crowds and noise and despite repeated requests to the school to find an alternative for them that morning they were still forced to sit in in front of parents. My child was at the back of the crowd like a deer in the headlights with eyes that just told me they wanted me to get them out of there. It was heartbreaking.
Yes questioned school about contradictory information and they told me to my face that it’s because the questions were about the classroom environment … (my child masks and they are fully aware of this) they said if the paed wanted them to fill in repeat questionnaires they would be happy to do so. No response from Paed and this has been a few weeks.
Paed is aware of child being on the SEN register and the provisions they have said are in place.
School made a referral in September to put my child on the EBSNA pathway and I have been told several times that there can be a one off home visit arranged with their EP to kickstart this, due to my child not attending school, but this keeps falling by the wayside and then they repeat that they can’t begin the EBSNA pathway due to them not being there.
A lot of contradictory information, a lot of emails and me asking questions and not getting straight forward responses.
I have my children on a transfer list as I wonder and have for a long time if this school is actually the right fit? Again, a lot of second guessing myself. I have also found out within the last hour that the EWO is going to be at the next meeting scheduled for next week.