"ds1 is horrible mummy"

[Jimjams]

so said ds2 when he had just been pinched (again!). This time he was pinched because ds1 had thrown a picture down the stairs smashing glass everywhere so I had to use the blue hoover that he hates to clean it up.

Soooooo a few of these comments have been starting- and I need to talk to ds2 about his brother as the opportunitites arise. He understands that he's not allowed to touch ds1's PECS cards as ds1 can't talk and he can. Thought I'd start tracking down books for young children as well. Any suggestions welcome.

Thanks Caroline 5

He is lovely with her, even if I say so myself

I still think The "My brother Sam" is such a lovely book. It is just written in such an uncomplicated way.

slightly off track...but a frequent comment my 'hopefuly-NT-youngest' says is when the other 2 (ASD) get to go to their holiday club (which is only for ASD children) and he says that 'it's not fair they can go there and i can't'

he's 5 and i really do struggle explaining why he cannot go- i have bought books that are aimed at the siblings of ASD children.

And the way he 'copes' is that he destroys/hides their 'special' things- today for example he crushed and shredded a handful of leigh's 'sycamore' seeds. leigh had a major meltdown over this - even my eldest asperger's son thomas ran in to see what had happened - the scream was so alarming.

He also removes their batteries out of toys etc (this i hate as it remiinds me of My Family and Autism....jaqui jackson et al....and worries me as to whether he is siply being annoying or is this a sign of things to come!)- or takes wheels of cars.....or creases up their trading cards....or changes channels to annoy them.

JimJams
I casn sympathise, tho' not necessarily help. As you know, my stepson (now aged 22) is auti. We have been thru a stage where ds (now 5) has said "I don't like X" when we have said SS is coming to see us. It's just that ds can't understand X's lack of empathy, his total inability to play, or relate to anything that ds is doing (added to which, ss used to lift ds away from the stereo all the time, music and the equipment to play it on being ss's 'thing').

If it's any consolation, we seem to have come out on the other side of the phase now, but then we don't have ss here all the time.

JImjams, have you found a suitable book yet?
I did a course last week on SENs and picked up a few leaflets. Looking through them tonight I picked up a Publications Catalogue by the National Autistic Society. On a quick glance there are several aimed at siblings. Is this all old news to you or would you like some more info?

just in case you need it