DD to start mainstream nursery in November!!

[Dingle]

Back in July i visited a nursery (attached to ds's school) the Headteachedr was lovely, seemed so willing to help, mentioned using part of their SENCO budget to pay for SALT, resources... came away convinced that I had made the right choice.
Had a home visit from the nursery staff on Monday and to be honest I wasn't too impressed with their knowledge regarding SN/SN procedures. The even told us (me & our Portage worker) that to get any additional help dd would need to be statemented.When they left my Portage worker said she was sure that this was not the case and has since checked. They did say that I needed to get any further info from SENCO.
I have a appt. next Monday with their SENCO.
Can anyone give me any ideas on what I should be asking?
I have spoken to an organisation today, called KIds (Parenting Partnership service) who have given me some ideas and are sending me some literature.
Has anyone got any personal experience and advice for me please.I feel so strongly about this- it may just be another nursery entrant to them but I feel it is the start of dd's mainstream experience and if I don't get it right, what chance will she have of attending mainstream school at the age of 5?

Oh dear the ups and downs of life with dd!
After feeling so good about mainstream nursery last week, today I have come away really worried.
I have never had any trouble with ds or dd going in to school/nursery until this morning!
She sat in her buggy looking all down in the mouth, I asked her if she wanted to get out and she said "na,,,na,,,!"
Tried to encourage her and talked about going in to play and she just looked at me and signed "sad."
My heart just melted, why? What was she sad about? If only she could tell me more!
Encouraged her in and her helper gave her a hug and encouraged her to settle in. I left with her calling out "mammaa mmaaammaa!"
I can't wait to pick her up now!

Oh no! It's so difficult when you're trying to work out what the problem is.

Hopefully she'll be full of smiles when you go to collect her and you'll wonder why you worried. Fingers crossed. xxx

Ah, Dingle! Bless you and your dd. I hope things are cheerier when you pick her up. Let us know.

Oh Dingle! I would find that really hard . Hope it isn't anything serious.

I have concerns about my dd's nursery too, although hers is SN not mainstream. It is so hard isn't it? I think for me I am just so aware of how important her early years support is, so unless it is 100% (okay 90% would be good) right then I just don't think I am going to be happy.

Dingle, how did it go when you picked DD up honey?

She seemed fine! Was really glad to see me!
It's a great feeling when she spots me through the window, and I hear her shout "mmaamaa" she grins like a cheshire cat signing hello to me through the window.
I didn't really get a chance to speak to anyone about how she had been, is this going to be a regular thing?
I must admit only going once a week is not really giving her the chance to find her feet, she doesn't really have a routine yet.
She has been really grizzly today anyway, so that can't have helped. She's got a bit of a cold, off her food and really not quite herself. It's just she's a bit different from the little girl that comes out of SN nursery covered with "well done" stickers.
I have got a lot to get used to if this is going to work! [smile}
Thanks for the support.