Hi all! I've been AWOL a few days (away for work and then a crazy busy day with the kids on Thursday, plus DD's birthday party on Saturday - went surprisingly well - she did have a couple of wobbles but two children had a full on melt down and neither one was her, so well done her: I do think she is starting to recognise a bit when she needs a break and take herself off or just zone out where she is).
Sorry about the negative report Danni. We had one like that when DD was quite young (everything was a "deficit" and all at ages much younger than she is - but including reading off charts from her pre-school completely wrong and understating what the school had actually said she was doing). It really made me cry and once I'd recovered I did mark it up with bits I disagreed with, and when she was in for her final Dx I did give that to the paediatrician, just to make sure that the factual errors didn't feed into the process. Luckily DD's actual diagnosis report was much more balanced: the kind of thing I wouldn't mind her reading one day (which doubtless she will want to when she's older at some point). I sometimes think these reports are written in a slightly OTT way to make sure DC get the support they need - which is understandable but I wonder if the experts actually think about the impact these things have on our kids if/when they eventually read them (and on us in the mean time, though I suspect we are just meant to get rhino hides)?
In terms of outside stuff, DD loves making collections. She quite often manages to rope other kids into helping her so I see it as broadly social and good (plus she just enjoys it, which is the main thing) - though I'm sure experts would say it's rigid/repetitive. So for a long time it was finding sticks to be wands and make spells, then in a hot bit of summer the sticks became hoses and we were spraying everything. Then collections of sticks to be made into camp fires. Then we moved on to making birds nests. Then for a while it was stick shops (this was actually pretty social and she would go with us coming up with different types of uses and names for different sticks ... believe me I am very creative around sticks now 
). She now seems to have moved on from sticks and it's all about collecting bee-food (i.e. bits of petals, the middle of daisies with the petals torn off - all collected in something, ideally a hat otherwise bits of dirty rubbish tend to get co-opted). She also had a "cauldron" in the garden that she made "potions" in for a long time (sticks, mud, leaves, petals, etc.) I remember this was a big childhood favourite of mine too, so I quite liked that one. She is also very interested in mini-beasts and likes making "homes" for them (ice cream tub with mud, sticks, leaves, etc.) and then finding some poor woodlouse or ant to live in it.
That sounds tricky with the cricket dimples. DD often ignores her friends and I do step in sometimes to just say "I think DD is just very focused on what she's doing at the moment" - but there's not a lot more you can say is there? I do talk to DD about needing to have give and take in play - do other people's ideas as well as her own, and give them a try (maybe putting her own ideas in to make it more fun) - but in the end if they just are in their own world then they wouldn't even notice in order to be able to think about that so I think they are a bit young for that kind of advice to be useful. Hopefully in due course they will get into it (and honestly lots of the kids are quite horrible to each other and then the next day it seems to have all blown over, so hopefully the other child's upset will be quite short lived). Do you know the parents? I always think it's easier if you do: but when the parents are strangers you never know whether saying something will make things better or worse.