one of ds1's tutors has been killed

[gess]

I've just heard. Shit. She'd actually finished working for us last month as she was off to bigger and better things. Shit shit shit. shit.

electra- that's so true, I was thinking that earlier.

Oh my God.

Poor girl and poor family. What a loss to society

When I was at school we had an adorable French assistant, who was killed in a car crash with her English fiance at about the same age - she was like a big sister and we were all so fond of her.

That's so terrible

Oh no thats terrible, how sad

Oh thats awful, how sad

Thats awful

Awful.

how absolutely tragic, very sorry to hear that

I need to send a card to her family. If anyone can think of anything thoughtful to add please let me know. Her poor family.

Oh how awful. So unfair.

Gess,I would write about how her input helped your child and any concrete memories you have had of her. When MIL died her sons really loved the cards that mentioned things about her,aspects of her life that they did not necessarily know about.

I'm pleased you said that moondog as that's what I was planning to do. I have a very vivid memory of her first day working with us, she arrived early and when ds1's bus arrived she was straight out there collecting him and bringing him in. Her confidence and ease - where many are wary- really impressed me & of course really warmed me to her. She had quite a bit of experience with autism, was never fazed, and was always keen to learn new things (she had never used ABA before, but really threw herself into learning how to use it).

Yes,stuff like that will go down very well.

I have written to quite a few parents of children we have lost and always try to give them a sense of how s/he was and what they did away from home.
Knowledge of the multi faceted nature of all of us and how we are different things to different people very comforting I think and gives sense of a productive life.

oh god, how awful

gess, I'm so sorry. She sounds like a wonderful person

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oh gess - that is terrible - what a loss.

Agree with moondog - share your memories and let them know how special she was to your family and how much you appreciated her and what she did - best.

gess, I'm so sorry.
Agree that a window on her richly promising life as a tutor to ds1 will mean such a very great deal to her poor parents.
What a monstrously unfair waste of a life

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