Has anyone ever regretted taking their dc out of MS into specialist?

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My ds is in year 7 and currently out of school completely. He can’t cope with it: no surprise, I knew it would go this way. He has high functioning autism and dyslexia. He doesn’t have an ehcp (long story) but I’m about to apply for this. I want to get him out and into a particular private school specifically for autism and dyslexia but this will prove difficult to get.

Our senco thinks that’s the worse thing for ds. He says he School I want will fail ds and that the curriculum is crap and he won’t get support and he won’t get anywhere. My argument is I would rather he was happy?l, safe and actually at school and only get a few gcse’s Rather than being in MS and fail completely...... senco says he knows families that have fought for this school and then regretted it.

I know a couple of mums who’s dc are at this school I want my ds to go and they think it’s great.

Please can you share your experimences if taking your dc out of MS and into specialist School?

It was either end June/July. So yes 6 months old. What would the point in that be, having another one done? I’m not convinced he would tolerate it to be honest as yet another stranger...

DD moved to specialist school from mainstream. At the time it was a huge decision emotionally for me to move her - despite knowing it was right I struggled to admit to myself at the same time that it was the best plan. She was only year 3 and starting to hate school, behaviour significantly deteriorating at home etc. We had been told previously she wouldn't get a statement (now EHCP) but fought for it. We had to appeal at tribunal to get what she needed in it and at that point we appealed her placement to change to indi specialist. We were awarded everything at tribunal.

She's not going to fly high academically, she was never going to in the environment she was in anyway though. Where she is she can stay on into college as well if needs be and take exams as and when she is ready. She also does modular units within subjects that add up credits for other college courses if she doesn't get enough GCSEs behind her. She's learning other valuable skills about life there and she has friends, genuine nice friends, because no-one there judges each other. She honestly loves school now.

I do not regret moving her 5 years ago. Yes, I still fear for her future - but then I would have done regardless I am certain.

Thank you for sharing. I’m dreading the fight that lays ahead of me. Iv been fighting for years. Some one with a boy similar to mine had 2 year ehcp fight in my La. I can’t get legal aid and can’t afford a solicitor sp petrified of tribunal!

llmb IPSEA can help with going to Tribunal if needs be.

www.ipsea.org.uk/contact/advice-and-support/tribunal-helpline

www.ipsea.org.uk/contact/advice-and-support/tribunal-casework-support

Thanks ellie

i took my son out of MS and got him into a SEN school, and it was great for him in so many ways, mainly social.

The academic side was definitely a comprmise and one that I had to, and was willing to make.
My son did come out with less qualifications than most people in mainstream, but I have no guarantee that he would have got them anyway. If they cant cope with mainstream, then its completely pointless to go on about the benefits of mainstream.

having said that, SEN education wasnt without its issues, but they were dealt with in a completely different way than issues at mainstream. It was much more holistic and child centred.