Quick one- can a child have anxiety / attachment problem cause by traumatic birth?

[Waitingforsleep]

Latest from camhs. Could this happen? Is this what explains Dd behaviour? Or is this camhs?

[BuffySENsational]

Hear hear zzzz you guys don't have that over interested or pity thing going on ^^ thats why I like these boards compared to the main one. It's great knowing that you guys 'get' it without all the angst that rl throws up. I've learnt so much from hear - I'd be lost without you guys

[youarenotkiddingme]

I love these boards too for the lack of over invested pity - but plenty of lively chat and actual empathy.

Who knows re traumatic birth. I personally don't think it's a contributed but yes early attachment is important to a certain extent but even then that can be out of the hands of parents.
It's the same with CP etc caused by traumatic births and lack of oxygen. Sometimes exists due to in utero damage and sometimes traumatic births, extreme premature births and lack or parental skin to skin and touch etc don't yield any long term effects.

I give the example of my cousin born at 23+5. She had little amniotic fluid to survive in from 22 weeks. Born less than a Lb in weight and 8in long. She wouldn't be consider viable in some counties.
She spent 4 months in NICU.
She has some mild LD but making progress and catching up and a childhood form of epilepsy (that any child can get) but other than that is perfectly healthy and attached.

I had a kidney infection when ph with DS at 19 weeks. Also had a traumatic birth and emcs.
I still blame his fathers side of the family as they have ASD! (Btw I don't 'blame' iyswim?).
I'd also very seriously question his father for ASD knowing what I do now

[blaeberry]

Apparently it is unlikely anyone is truly ambidextrous. I remember a talk by a professor of handedness (or at least that was his specialist subject) who said every single 'ambidextrous' person he tested was better with one hand than the other when properly tested. They were still pretty good with both though so you could argue he was being a bit pedantic.

[MeirAya]

Physically traumatic birth

• problems with handedness
  
• ongoing worries about development
  
  This isn't sounding like attachment. Can you get her seen by a paediatric neurologist or similar?

[AllwaysCarryMashems]

Op why would you be to blame even if truamatic birth was a compounding factor in your dds diagnosis?

I have been told by several experts that my severely oxygen deprived birth could have been the factor that meant I developed adhd &dyspraxia when neither of my parents have these conditions. My birth absolutely was not my mother's fault (& for the record I hate her as she is one of the few mbp & npd mothers so I wouldn't excuse 'blame' unless there simpley isn't any)

I knew there was a 30% chance that my children would get my adHD. I took it, because what's the alternative- pexpletives with these conditions don't have children? I'm brilliant with kids & have allways wanted them & my disabilities are just part of who I am. I'm not saying I havn't felt horrendous guilt at times, because it's not much harder watching my children go through this that it is for me to have lived it, plus they have several more disabilities than I do which is tough..... but i know I would say the same thing to them when they get to the adulthood and want children. The world being all the same can never be a good thing.

[grannytomine]

I think mothers are inclined to blame themselves. One of mine was an emergency CS, I hated it and was determined to have a vaginal delivery next time. Well it got really close to another emergency CS but a very nice Senior Registrar managed to deliver him, horrible forceps resulting in a very bruised 10 lb baby who looked like a heavy weight boxer who lost the match. I felt incredibly guilty, I had been selfish and wanted the birth my way.

I then got incredibly over protective, he was a very ugly baby, my other 3 were beautiful and lots of people commented that my daughter was the most beautiful baby they had ever seen, apart from their own of course. I felt there was something wrong with him because he didn't look like his siblings and decided the midwives were hiding something from me. If I saw two midwives talking I was sure they were discussing what was wrong with him. I think I needed to see a psychiatrist but I hid it well.

I won't lie, he was a very demanding baby, I felt guilty so I think I contributed to that but here we are 20 odd years later and he has a good degree, is handsome and well adjusted.

His birth and early life were very traumatic and don't seem to have had any effect and don't know if that goes for everyone but I do think mums should be kind to themselves and not blame themselves for everything.

OP I hope everything works out OK.

[Crazyhorse123]

As an adult psychotherapist I always ask patients about their birth and earliest memories. As well as their primary care givers mental health. From my point of view I do think the birth and a parent having pnd can create potential anxieties in a child. But I work with adults so would really listen to the child experts. I have a son myself who had a v difficult birth and am posting about his anxieties . I would not say it is the cause at all but may be a contributing factor. And it is never a judgement on the parent just a way of understanding the processes of the psyche.