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[mrsforgetful]

Can we have some 'Fun' here???

Thought we could 'share' some of the 'amusing' stories that remind us that 'it's all worth while' when the uphill struggle gets tough

Let me start with this.......

On Sunday we 'braved' a visit to a garden centre
Tom and Leigh ....both ASD and Alex (NT...with a BIG QUESTION MARK....read on for details!) were fantastic...we even stopped at Mc Donalds !!!!

After we'd paid for the plants we bough ice lollies and went to a shady lawn to eat them

Alex was very slowly eating his and it was melting all over his hand

My husband was getting impatient waiting so said.....

"IF YOU DON'T HURRY UP AND EAT THAT YOU'LL HAVE TO CHUCK IT AWAY"

with that ALEX DID EXACTLY THAT......HE THREW IT OVER A 6ft+ HEDGE ....AND IT JUST MISSED A GROUP OF PEOPLE WALKING PAST!!!!

we just looked at one another and burst out laughing-

Thomas (asperger's) then put the icing on the cake when he said :

"OH MY GOD! ALEX TOOK WHAT DAD SAID VERY LITERALLY....MUM YOU'VE PROBABLY GOT 3 SONS WITH ASPERGERS NOW!"

This 'event' has made me smile alot over the past few days as....despite it being a 'worrying' sign of Alex's possibly being ASD too.....more importantly to me was the fact that for the first time in ages ALL of us shared a laugh....once i explained to Alex why we were laughing he joined in!

Plus i also realised that for once i was completely oblivious to what passerbys thought....though if they had been hit on the head with the lolly then this story would probably have had a different ending!

What a nice story and what a good idea.

OKay, I'll try and think of one........

Okay got it,

As you know, or may not, Lottie is 2 and a half and due to her DS and being hypermobile, lazy, stubborn and cheeky etc (!) she is still not walking or even standing.

At social gatherings this makes life dull for her. We were at a family party and all in the garden standing round chatting and drinking and Lottie was in my arms and who can blame her she was so bored by it all.

So what she thought of to get out of this boring situation was catch the eye of any adult near enough and stretch out her arms to them to pick her up.

They all in turn thought this was delightful and one by one rushed over with cries on 'ooohhhh, isn't she so adorable'. She would then point over to another corner of the garden and say 'there, there'!

So she got round and explored the garden in the arms of virtually every adult there! Every time an adult sat down with her to show her off to the people they were with she'd start the process again!

Made me laugh, made me proud

hahahahaha MRSF I thought of you on monday actually as I met a woman with 3 ASD boys (it wasnt you was it?)

Thomcat lottie is so sweet (my dd is hypermobile too!)

Er I cant think of anything, except I am very proud of dd because she has adapted our new life so well. She has started at a specialist pre-school 2 days a week and a mainstream nursery (without support atm) 1 day a week. Everyone thinks she is delightful/'wonderful/clever/pretty/gorgeous/etc/etc and she is just doing soooo well. She said cheese the other day and said bye-bye XXXX XXX (the dogs names) yesterday before we went out. She is lovely. I will shut up now

bless you fio, you proud happy mum you

I love this thread!

Ds1 has an amazing ability to copy other people's voices and phrases. It's uncanny how accurate he is and you can usually tell exactly who has taught him a new word/phrase - extremely useful when trying to find out where he picked up swear words.

When we're out and about he seems to be a people-magnet. Neighbours who don't speak to other local children always say hello to him. Walking to playgroup yesterday ds1 said:

"Are you alright, dear?" to an elderly neighbour;

"Y'alreeet?" to a Scottish neighbour;

"Y'alright, mate?" to a local Brummie.

aww bless coppertop he has my accent down to a T then on no.3!

Well this isnt exactly funny but I was amazed by my little boy....

Ben was in the bath pouring water out of his teapot (one of his obsessions). I gave him a jug and he started pouring with that. I then said to him "what's that?".

He looked at the jug and thought hard about it and said "Teapot cup"!!!

I thought that was a pretty amazing deduction from a child with severe autism and language delay!

I can guarantee that whenever we travel by train, dd announces 'ooooh Fat Controller' whenever the ticket collector appears (irrespective of his size). There was an exception when the collector was young, slim and dark haired. 'Oooooh Lee!' She is a Steps fan (hasn't quite realised that they are no more).

It's strange where 'Lee' gets to. He was the hospital porter when she was being taken down to theatre last October. And low and behold, he appeared when we called in a pub a couple of months ago when he brought us our food out. Not the same guy as in Steps of course, but lookalikies!

today had another 'literal' moment!!!!

We were in the car and had arrived home

Alex was in the passenger seat-i was driving

i told alex not to get out the car on his side- but out my door- with that he then undid his seat bely and started to climb all over me!

I said " Alex i meant when I had got out....not when i'm still sat here!"

Did have a think about his 'literalness' today...trying to stay balanced on this and not 'look' for autism that is not there etc!....realised that because with leigh i HAVE to be so precise and specific as he is @king of the Literals'...that it's possible that Alex has been brought up with this 'detailed instruction/imformation giving' to such an extent that when i slip up and 'carelessly' say something without the usual thought i HAVE to use....then Alex is bound to react this way.

Does that make sense!!!

It's not so much 'learned' behaviour but rather 'the ONLY' way he knows.

I think MaryZ said something similar to me a week or two back!

LOL at your storys! I have one of my own. My dd takes things literally(?AS) and she sleeps in a bunk bed with a drink at night.
One night I had my head in the wardrobe looking for something and she said Mum get my drink, as in the night befores one. I said Just chuck it, thinking it was a plastic bottle and she said "its made of glass itll smash" and I still had my head in the wardrobe when CRASH she lobbed this glass full of water at me.
I thought it was very amusing except for the glass all over the floor, she explained I had told her to chuck it, and I just couldnt believe even though SHE was the one that had said it would smash that she still threw it!

excellent!

Reminds me of the countless times i have had something knocked out of my hands...which then falls to the floor- and my 2 older sons still cannot see that 'it was their fault' even though THEY ran past and knocked me....as far as they are concerned....I drooped it = MY MISTAKE!!!!

Hmmm, yes, my dds sister was on the wrong end of that sort of thinking last week. Little dd layed her scooter on the floor, Big dd got on her scooter and crashed into little dds scooter and as it was little dds scooter that was in the way she punched her poor little sister in the face repeatedly

oooh.... scooters too!

Leigh cannot tolerate alex using his scooter even if leigh is upstairs on the playstaion....we have to still really labour the request to borrow it etc and then keep reminding leigh how good he is to share etc.

the other day alex was on it- and leigh came all the way down from his room to pull alex off....there is ABSOLUTELY no reasoning with leigh at this point....whereas if we do the 'asking palava' first we can sometimes get him to share it.

this kind of behaviour is 'fine' in toddlers (you can 'blame' their age for not sharing)....but it gets harder when they are nearly 8 and the 'rest of the world' think 'HE SHOULD KNOW BETTER'

We had another 'literal moment' from ds1 this week. I don't know if it was an ASD thing or just his age but it was still amusing to watch.

I took ds1 and ds2 to the park while the weather was nice. After a while it got a bit too hot so I told ds1 that we were going to sit under a tree, ie in the shade. Ds1 trotted over to the tree, looked at the trunk and tried to figure out how to literally get under the tree. In the end he settled for just leaning against the trunk itself.