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The things 'Other' parents brag/moan about that wind me up....

MrsForgetful · 2006-11-18T00:22:28+00:00

1) Their children eat ANYTHING... 2)Their children do what my boys do...and they are not allowed to getaway with it.(meaning i am soft!) 3)moaning that baby/child is still up at 7pm....now 11 or 12 i can see as a problem...but 7pm! 4)Their kids have 'learnt' to do something like 'share toys' etc...and that i 'spoil' mine by allowing them to have 3 of most things so they don't have to share...and when i try to explain that sharing is hard for mine...they start the usual... tuff love etc! i'll add some more ....

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MrsForgetful · 18/11/2006 00:22

Their children eat ANYTHING... 2)Their children do what my boys do...and they are not allowed to getaway with it.(meaning i am soft!) 3)moaning that baby/child is still up at 7pm....now 11 or 12 i can see as a problem...but 7pm! 4)Their kids have 'learnt' to do something like 'share toys' etc...and that i 'spoil' mine by allowing them to have 3 of most things so they don't have to share...and when i try to explain that sharing is hard for mine...they start the usual... tuff love etc!

i'll add some more ....

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Socci · 19/11/2006 11:05

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MrsForgetful · 19/11/2006 15:42

thanks JJ for explaining....glad to hear about the 'imitating'...and understand about the screaming. ds3...though very verbal- still pulls at my face if he wants something- and still drags my body toward what he wants rather than point....and still uses "1 word requests"...which sound like commands!....but if pushed can 'expand' his request....

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Fattymumma · 19/11/2006 15:58

OOh DS went through a stage pf being a dog. he would only respnd to you if you spoke to him as a dog.
imagine the delights of a 4 yo going out n the garden for a poo

was funny as he did it once during a hv visit about my pregnancy with dd....i just said "oh yes he's being a dog, i'll clean it up later" she was not impressed.....but she was less impressed when he came in and licked her face.

i hate those people who moan about sn provision.
my mum overheatd someone whinging in the playground about the fact that her child had written her name and wanted to show the teacher (this wouldn't have been the firsttime her child had done this) but she couldn't give her enough attention as she was busey dealing with "the backwards kid"

Jimjams2 · 19/11/2006 17:46

what is it with autistic kids and dogs. I know a child who thinks she is a dog, or used to anyway!

Teecee- I never thought ds1 would get presents. We could leave all the presents under the tree. I remember in reception when he was at mainstream all the kids went into see Father Xmas. DS1 threw the present back at him (wasn't remotely interested). Now you can't leave one in his vicinity as he rips it open, and he steams through his xmas stocking etc (I never let him open presents in front of sensitive people though as if he doesn't like it he just drops it on the floor and walks off )

TeeCee · 19/11/2006 22:45

I don't think that dog thing is limited to children who are autistic. My DD is obsessed with dogs apart from when one comes near her! She talks about them all the time and pretends to be one at various stages of the day, when she isn't being Lola and I'm Charlie. I get her to eat veggies by pretending she's a dog and that's how I got her to walk to me by pretending she was a dog and calling her to me! And DD2 is called Sizzles 24 hours a day (dog from charlie and lola!)

Fattymumma · 20/11/2006 00:31

"ooh i do hate it when xxxxx happens, it really throws out his routine"

routine? routine? wtf is a routine...if he sleeps for more than 5 hours 2 days running i count myself lucky (he is still awake now)

"we had to sit in that park for ages today as xxx was playing with this child and wouldn't leave"

hmm A) we can only go to playgrounds after it starts getting dark and is therefore empty and B) what i wouldn't give for Ds to play with another child spontaneously(sp)

"oh great, yet another bloody birthday party tomorrow, i hate having to sit with a load of parents i don't know"

I wouldn't know, my Ds has never been invited to a party.

on finding out i have an autistic child...pityfull look - ooh sorry, i bet thats hard work.

yes but then isn't parenting any child hard work?

Pixel · 20/11/2006 19:54

Oh yes, I always get the "bet that's hard work for you" bit. But then I suppose parents of twins etc get the same comment. Sometimes people can't think of anything else to say!

Blu · 20/11/2006 22:04

TeeCee, I am in fits at DD2 being Sizzles!

onlyjoking9329 · 20/11/2006 22:32

and if you happen to be the parent of twins who have autism it gets worse
recent annoying things have included one mum really upset that her six year could not do joined up writing, i did bite my tounge but wanted to say well my 12 year old twins can't actually write/read ect.
another mum telling me what a nightmare she is having with her child coming up to exams and her other child can't make her mind up which uni to go to, i didn't feel any better when she said "at least you won't have to worry about those things you can't imagine how difficult it is"

Jimjams2 · 20/11/2006 23:29

onlyjoking she didn't say that!!!!! Did she have a sensitivity bypass? What on earth do you say when people are so mind blowingly insensitive? I tend to do a goldfish impression, makes my excuses and leave!!!

magicfarawaytree · 21/11/2006 00:00

I read somewhere once that sharing was stealing to a child. 25% of the toys I buy them are share toys and the rest are 'theirs'. When they were younger they were really good at sharing because we had an open door policy with friends. The because of the people that abused that - the ' lets come trash your house, and whilst we are at it judge you to be wrong with how you are bringing up your children..' types. I've done a lot less entertaining so they only have to share amongst themselves. I always had hand me downs and had to share virtually everything I'm not really big on sharing. I like my own stuff and would rather not have in most instance that have to share.

magicfarawaytree · 21/11/2006 00:02

also only routines I am interested in having is one to get the kids out of the house in the mornign and one to get them into bed.

fortyplus · 21/11/2006 00:58

Lots of very judgemental people out there by the sound of it.

sorrell - just like to say that I was Chair of my sons' Primary School PTA and often badgered for funding for full disabled access. Fortunately they've got it at last and if the ex Head is to be believed this has happened without a physically disabled child ever having applied for the school and being denied a place. So that's a good thing.

Pages · 21/11/2006 09:09

Greensleeves, I haven't seen you on the SN board before - do you have a child with SN?

Pages · 21/11/2006 09:10

GS - Though I haven't been on for a while so sorry if you have been posted lots and I have just missed it.

fortyplus · 21/11/2006 20:48

Hi. No - though I know several people who have. Just offering sympathy as I've seen how life can be so difficult for them and their children, especially the ones who 'look normal'.

Pages · 22/11/2006 11:07

Now I'm confused! Are you also Greensleeves, fortyplus?

fortyplus · 22/11/2006 17:15

No... just Fortyplus. I've never used an alias

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