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Aaahhh now I know what SN stands for!

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juniper68 · 29/03/2004 21:37

I posted a message on behaviour/development and two mums said to go to SN and I had no clue.

My son, 3 1/2 is going to be assessed at his pre school as he's showing autistic tendencies. They didn't say that outright as he needs to be assessed first. A doctor usually attends a session or two also. It'll be aspergers if anything though IMO.
I felt a bit sad today even though I expected it. It's more worrying about his future I suppose.

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fio2 · 29/03/2004 21:42

sorry juniper maybe I should have explained better!! Of course you will feel sad, even if you have nothing to worry about. I felt shell shocked for ages and ages. Dont think about his future yet, you have no reason to yet as he hasnt even been assessed. I know how you feel though because my mind still runs away with me now, but try not to worry until you KNOW. Even then try not to worry. Awww ((hugs)) from me, sorry I am not much help

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juniper68 · 29/03/2004 21:48

You are helping fio xx i know I shouldn't worry too much yet but it's just I'm usually worrying about other people and their kids and for a change it's me. thanks again xx

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Jimjams · 29/03/2004 22:01

31/2 is young to be diagnosed with AS. Who does the assessment? The paediatrician? (This is kind of important as a paediatrician's diagnosis is worth far more than anyone elses- and people like SALTS and Ed Psychs aren't really "allowed" to diagnose).

Have you seen the chat test . If you can remember what your son was like at 18 months its a very good predictor of who is showing signs of autism at 18 months. Certainly my son failed it at 18 months (although I'm not sure whether everyone with AS would fail at 18 months).

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juniper68 · 30/03/2004 11:05

I didn't realise 3 1/2 is young to be diagnosed? The leader of the pre school said a doctor who specialises in special needs will visit and she comes more than once usually plus other health professionals.

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dinosaur · 30/03/2004 12:48

3 and a half is young to be diagnosed with Aspergers, it would be more usual (like my DS1) to be diagnosed as highfunctioning autistic at that age.

dinosaur · 30/03/2004 12:50

And I agree with what Maryz said about the diagnosis - I have been 100% happier since my DS1 got his formal diagnosis a year ago - since then I have had far more confidence in asking for help and implementing strategies for coping - I would not want to go back to the bad old "is he or isn't he" days.

papillon · 30/03/2004 12:52

Thinking of you

((hugs))

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juniper68 · 30/03/2004 17:21

maybe he has high functioning autism?

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juniper68 · 30/03/2004 17:22

thanks for the hugs btw x

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Thomcat · 30/03/2004 17:40

Hi Juniper, sorry to hear you're going through what must be a worrying and upsetting time. Having you suspisions put to the test, not nice. However from everyones posts on here it could be the best thing, at least you'll know for sure and will be able to get the support you need to help him. You will let us know how he gets on won't you?
Love to you and yours - TC x

jmb1964 · 30/03/2004 22:32

Juniper -just to echo the others, yes, the process of getting a diagnosis is hard, and you go through stages from denial through anger, guilt etc as in bereavement , but once you arrive life gets a lot easier.
Like Maryz we have a son with Aspergers, (diagnosed when he was 5), and I wish we had done more sooner, rather than believing the (false) reassurances of nursery teachers.
Good luck!

Morag · 30/03/2004 23:11

My DS - now 12 got a diagnosis last year - the relief in having this was huge - hold on to your beliefs - you ARE doing great! He will be wonderful whatever he does! Believe in him - believe in yourself!

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juniper68 · 31/03/2004 10:10

Cheers again for the support xx
My DS is a lovely little boy, so full of fun and everyone loves him. His keyworker at pre school gets told off for favouring him He knows most of his colours numbers and letters and can say most words. He's very physically adept, more so than my 6 year old, and he's fab at football. I'm really proud of him and love him to bits. I'm sure there are lots of adults that come under the autistic spectrum that have been missed years ago. My mate's bf admits he thinks he is and his 6 year old was diagnosed last year.
I'll keep you posted, thanks again x

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maryz · 01/04/2004 21:53

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juniper68 · 01/04/2004 22:08

thanks for that maryz. It must make you proud knowing your son has made friends and fits in at school. I must admit if my ds is diagnosed with some form of autism,it's the lack of emotional understanding worries me most. Knowing your son has found a way to cope with this has given me hope.

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