won't go into too much detail but DS has been identified as possibly having some signs of autism. I had some very slight concerns before but i'm not too sure and to me he doesn't seem that bad that he would seem that different to children of the same age. There are probably two things that he does that are more unusual and the other things i think aren't unusual for a toddler of his age- such as not yet potty trained, not always responding to name etc. The more unusual things he does is being very good with numbers and humming (although he does this much less now than he used to), oh and he also likes routine.
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if your child has autism what were they like when they were 2 to 3 years
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ChazDingle · 07/03/2013 21:56
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MareeyaDolores ·
09/03/2013 09:08
Marking the thread (I was another smug mummy with vague concerns which I denied, and DS2 is in this age bracket and am starting to get deja vu 
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HecateWhoopass ·
09/03/2013 09:08
Hansie - My eldest had no interest in me at all. You know how people talk about newborns and that special bonding during feeding where you gaze into each others eyes?
I had none of that. He was so unwilling to look at me that I used to sit and sob, convinced he hated me and he had decided I was a bad mother.
He hated to be cuddled. He'd go rigid. Yet he wanted to feed from me constantly. As long as I held him loosely and didn't look at him 
. Any attempt from me to touch or stroke or cuddle or look into his eyes was met with what seemed at the time to be hostility.
I did it anyway. In the end he learned to tolerate it. But he didn't like or want it.
I just wasn't anything of importance to him. Later, he realised that I had practical uses, such as passing him stuff he couldn't reach and as giver of food but he didn't think of me as an actual person for years I was a means to an end. Food, entertainment. My finger was used to see if his food was hot! He would actually grab my finger and put it into his food. Clever bugger really! He liked to play with us, but totally on his terms and for his entertainment and not a two way thing and when he was done, he'd walk away without a backward glance. I always felt that he would be just as happy with anyone as long as they were performing the duties he needed performing.
My youngest was as different again. He loved attention and cuddles and would light up when we picked him up. It was a shock when he regressed.
Now they are 12 and 13 (nearly 14) and my eldest is a cool, calm (mostly!) laid back person who loves us all very much. He doesn't say it unless made to 
but you can tell that he does. My youngest loves hugs and attention and loves to perform for us, but he requires constant direction and you have to make sure he behaves appropriately and he is very fiery!
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09/03/2013 11:10
Hanse, something that might be of interest, ds2 was very like a lot of the children mentioned here, no tantrums, very 'self-sufficient' lovely as a baby.
But it was startling to see photos of him, he was super photogenic, because he lit up, looked like he was making 'eye contact' was beaming, we were a bit 'who IS this child?'
Looking back on it, it was probably because the camera was so much more interesting to him that human faces were
MerryCouthyMows ·
10/03/2013 15:08
DS1 : VERY early motor development. Rolling over and over at 5 WEEKS old. Crawling at 12 weeks old. Walking at 7mo.
No speech AT ALL until 20mo. When he turned round to me and asked "can I have some juice, please Mummy?" He had never said ONE word before then. HV had actually put in a referral for SALT by that point!
By 2-3yo, his speech was off the chart. He used to talk to the preschool staff and ask them if they knew the meaning of 'intangible', and explain it to them if they didn't know.
Has always only had one friend at a time - friend at preschool was a DC recovering from a brain tumour who was profoundly deaf and didn't talk AT ALL. Same thing has gone on all through school too. Only friend from YR to Y3 was a boy that has Aspergers and ADHD. When he left, DS1 had severe social issues and no friends until he made friends with the boy from preschool again.
Nothing unusual picked up between 2-3yo, except his academic progress - he left preschool having completed the entire EYF curriculum, and half of the Y1 curriculum too.
He was never a good sleeper, he hardly slept. By 2.5yo, I was in tears most mornings having had to be up all night with him and still take DD to school.
He used to refuse to wear clothes and insist on being called Spider-Man, refused to answer to his own name, even at preschool, and even wrote his name on his pictures as Spider-Man!
Corrected adults constantly too - didn't see a difference between adults and children then, and doesn't now at nearly 11.
His issues started becoming more apparent when he started the Juniors, massive social skills deficit became apparent, school having issues too. Now in Y6, I'm being called in weekly or more to discuss his behaviour.
He isn't producing the work he is capable of, and is frustrated that he feels that if the classroom was silent, he would produce far better work. VERY easily distracted.
Between 2-3yo, though, I thought if him as my 'NT one', as the others had many dxd SN's, and he didn't and was so far ahead academically that I didn't notice his social skills issues until he was around 7yo. 
I am now seeking a dx of Aspergers, as I feel that is the issue at heart and I want / need a dx before he goes to Secondary in September.
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