Hi
Haven't been on an an absolute age, but I thought I'd come and tell you about ds2's OT appointment yesterday.
I wasn't expecting much, as frankly his care to date has been worse than shabby. I even said to dh the night before that I felt like cancelling, because I thought it was just going to be another waste of everyone's time.
BUT, I was wrong and it was worth going. The OT was excellent. She directed the session towards ds, really listened to him and took on board what he was saying, whilst taking into account things that I said to back up or expand on his answers. She was unimpressed with his care to date and keen to get things sorted for him asap.
The outcome of the meeting was:
- They are going into school to assess his seating and support and tell them he needs specialist seating.
They want him to have a specialist chair that supports his pelvis and spine properly and can be adjusted to ensure his feet are flat on the floor regardless of what height of desk he is sitting at - so I guess that means a gas-lift chair.
They totally 'got' how the JHS results in him being constantly exhausted and in pain and took the view that they could help by reducing the load on him by means of ot aids and proper seating. She said just improving his seating will make a big difference, as he is currently spending all day trying to hold himself up and that alone is exhausting.
- They are going back to paed physio, who refused to see him because he'd already been seen at the hospital by useless main physio dept
, to ask for advice on pain and pacing and ask them to see him.
- They are arranging for the school nurse to work with them and school on a getting a care plan in place asap, to ensure he can tell someone when he's in pain or exhausted. (He's too scared to tell anyone when he subluxes, gets cramp or becomes exhausted, after being told off over the years for making a fuss and they said this isn't acceptable and he should have a clear path/system for requesting, help, rest and/or pain relief.)
- They tried him with lots of different pencils/pencil grips/cutlery/rulers etc and came up with the best ones to suit his needs. Also noted during this that his fingers are extremely hypermobile - in that the end joint of his index finger completely bends back if using the wrong writing implement. In fact even using the special chunky triangular stabilos his index finger was still bending back to almost 90 degrees.
- They are sending in a specialist PE teacher to the school to teach them how to differentiate for his needs during PE.
- They are referring him for support from the physical disabilities inclusion team! (I was really surprised by this one.)
I was gobsmacked at how helpful they were - much better than when ds1 was assessed.
I was also sad when they got him to tell them about all the things he struggles with and how much pain and exhaustion he suffers from. We really haven't given his needs enough attention what with my health and the last few years of battling for ds1 and I have to admit, I hadn't really taken in how bad things have been for him. He rarely complains and if he does complain or cry, then things are really bad. 
School is not going to be at all impressed, because I haven't pushed them up until this point. His teacher this year has been really good and obviously cares, but doesn't really understand how hard things are for him and because he doesn't complain, assumes he's ok. We are already public enemy no 1 with the school due to the fight we're having to get them to implement his statement, so they aren't going to take this well. I did explain it all to the OT though and she said not to worry about that, she will handle the school.
We also have the one-appointment, then discharge system, but we can self-refer at any time. It's really hit and miss how long it takes to get an appointment, it can be anything from 6 weeks to 5 months or longer depending on demand.
So anyway, I just wanted to let you know that they can do these things to support our dcs in school, so it's definitely worth keeping on fighting.