Anyone else finding sleep a major issue?

[CalmTheFireAndWarmTheIce]

So I don’t have children (yet) but I find sleep (or lack thereof) a major problem as I try to navigate health issues (my family and my my own).
sometimes it’s 6/7pm and I’m ready for bed; literally can’t keep my eyes open.
Sometimes I’m awake literally days at a time with stress and worry (and lack of eating, unintentional, medical reasons that are long winded)- then I just crash out.
it disrupts everything- I feel lonely- I feel like I can’t commit to plans- I feel I hardly see hubby even though we share same bed.
i know it’s partly mental, partly physical, but I only seem to sleep in short amounts (full of nightmares) then I’m awake (usually when everyone I know is asleep) and all I do is think- negatively. I usually have a headache and palpitations too.
ive tried all the therapists have to offer; sleep hygiene, distraction, as well as the usual therapies and medications. Just nothing seems to work.
i don’t want to wake up hubby and have him suffering too… I just want some rest!
I feel if I had that I could be more productive and perhaps break the cycle?
the sleep deprivation makes me feel so negative- I just want to be positive for those around me.
anyone out there feeling the same? Any tips?

I’ve had success with acupuncture for other stuff that the standard NHS doesn’t think is a problem over the years.

Has anyone out there tried it?

Apologies if you’ve said this but have you tried the sedating antihistamines, promethazine, Doxylamine etc? I find them highly effective and use them a few times a week.

I mentioned these up thread and I also find them good but, they are only for short term use. I also read something which links them to dementia.

I know. GP referred me for hypnosis instead sand one of these charity alternative therapy centres, it didnt seem to work, I didn’t even feel myself going under.

GP off the record said I should get melatonin and magnesium but I don't want to take MORE supplements. I'm peri and a shift worker, so a poor combination. I've tried Nytol and all the other OTC stuff but I get the foggiest head in the morning...and I might be breaching my employer's drug & alcohol policy so best not. I keep active during the day. I don't drink tea after 4pm. I read books before bed. I can't go to bed at the same time every night sadly. I eat at six pm so not too late. But despite all that and more I wake up at 4am and can't go back to sleep.

Magnesium isn’t a supplement. It’s a mineral… so won’t leave you foggy headed… just relaxed.
Melatonin worked for a few nights… like all the others!

(Speaking for myself…)

Yes I have; it helped my hubby enormously with physical symptoms; with me not so much. I think it depends on the clinician you see tbh and their motivation (for example I was carrying extra weight, later found to be not fat but water, so they “upsold” me “dieters tea” which is basically a really unpleasant laxative). So, I’m all for alternative remedies if they work for YOU, just go with caution, like everything I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️❤️

Sorry replied in wrong place… I thought that too ref magnesium and melatonin. I’m deficient in magnesium but don’t think I’ve tried melatonin… can you get it prescribed uk do you know? X

I really feel for you…
I often find these are the hardest times to be awake alone.
i KNOW I have to be up within the next couple of hours to start my usual med cycle, I can hear the neighbours getting up around me, but no sleep for me yet… just makes it all the more saddening…
My health conditions mean I don’t produce oestrogen hormones, even though in early 30s, can’t take supplements becoz of underlying health conditions; so I feel you in lots of ways.
poor you. If I find a remedy I’ll post it asap! Sending lv x

Yes, I think perhaps not the doxylamine? What’s that like? I may be wrong though. I tried so many I just got to the point of STOP! I need a break!
Then it’s like all the hard work you’ve put in with your GPs counts for nothing and you’re being told to drink a hot cocoa and take a warm bath again…. 🙄 like if that worked I wouldn’t be doing it already! x

Yes I have; it helped my hubby enormously with physical symptoms; with me not so much. I think it depends on the clinician you see tbh and their motivation (for example I was carrying extra weight, later found to be not fat but water, so they “upsold” me “dieters tea” which is basically a really unpleasant laxative). So, I’m all for alternative remedies if they work for YOU, just go with caution, like everything I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️❤️