Baby wakes for dummy

[BethJ93]

Hi all

Hope this makes sense…. Ftm so looking for any help/advice

My daughter is nearly 5 months and will not sleep through, the issue seems to be her dummy as everytime it falls out she wakes crying and as soon as i put it back in for her she will go back off . This happens multiple times through the night so looking for some tips that may help 😩

We used to put lots of dummies in DD's cot which helped as she would just grab one.. although I think DD might have been older. Would your DD be able to grab a dummy if several were in her cot?

Teach her to put it back in herself.

Lots of dummies in the cot so she can find one easily.

My baby did the same. Slept with a dummy my hand, with my hand on autopilot, in the crib next to me, while I slept. No tips, really!

It's an annoying phase when they spit it out constantly but can't put it back in. I had mine in the next to me cot and just stuck it back in 100 times a night till they figured out how to do it themselves.

It’s a phase. Once she is older she will be able to locate and replace them herself (around 8 months I think if I remember correctly). You just need to keep on keeping on for the time being.
Also it’s far from the norm to sleep through from 5 months. Those whose babies do are the lucky ones! Mine slept through properly (no night time wakings for a feed etc.) at 12 months, and speaking to others at the time that was good going comparatively. Even then baby sometimes would need a quick settle from time to time.

My DD started putting hers in independently at 7mos and we had a few in the cot, including the glow in the dark ones. Until then I used to replace it.

To help her learn to put it in herself, I used to put the dummy in her hand and guide it to her mouth at night and in the day too.

Having the same issue - not brave enough to get rid of the dummy but the wake ups are tough!

Thank you everyone!

I know she’s still young , but everyone in her baby group an friends who have babies similar age all sleep through 😩 so being a ftm can’t help but feel I’m doing something wrong.

She can’t quite grasp putting the dummy in herself yet , I use the glow in dark ones so easy for myself to locate an put in easy enough but the multiple wakes is really getting to me now 😔

I has this and was fed up with having to get out of bed just to put the dummy back in so went cold turkey on the dummy. Difficult couple of days then no problems after that.

Putting the dummy back in themselves is typically 7 months old and they’ll probably need about 10 in the cot for them to find them. Sp unfortunately you’re still a way off. I could deal with a single 3am quick replace until then but if this is literally everytime it falls out, so presumably about once an hour once she enters deep sleep and the muscles relax, then I would definitely get rid as it sounds like it’s making sleep worse not better, so rather defeats the point.

No idea how to link but look up Sleepytot in Amazon / elsewhere . Seems to now be about £18.99 .

Basically a cuddly animal with Velcro to attach I think 4 dummies . Was a life saver for us , perhaps worth a try as not all babies like the same things .

Same. 🤣 Loads of them, strategically placed all around, so there’s a greater chance of a little hand finding one.

Just checked the sleepytot uk website and see it is recommended from 7 months .

1. you're not doing anything wrong just because your 5 mo isn't sleeping through! How long does she sleep at a stretch/how many Wakes?

2. I bet all the other babies aren't sleeping through!

Thank you! Just feels like it when everyone says their baby sleeps 🙈 . She usually goes down about half 9 , then it’s every 2/3 hours from there until she wants her bottle at 7 . I’ve offered a bottle in night but she won’t drink it all she wants is the dummy!

My first didn’t sleep through until 13 months.

Sure is! How many times does your LO wake?

It’s not typical for a 5 month old to sleep through the night. Some will, but most will not. More likely she’s waking anyway and the dummy is how she soothes back to sleep. Both of mine have breastfed back to sleep, sucking is soothing and helps them settle. Just keep popping the dummy back in if that’s what’s helping.

@BethJ93 on a good night? Maybe 2 feed and a dummy run.

he has only had one feed in the night twice.

last night was x2 feeds and x3 dummy runs!

I thought that but it turned out half of them meant "only Wakes for a feed" or "sleeps from midnight til 6" (which would still be great going from my POV!

Mine Wakes 2-3-4 times between 8pm and 6 or 7am, for a feed or just a soothing suckle (we don't use a dummy, he refused it!). It's normal, doesn't mean you wouldn't love them to sleep through!

And just to add, the definition of “sleeping through” means a period of 6-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep, so mine “slept through” from 3 or 4 months…. She went down at 6pm and woke at midnight…. I didn’t see or feel this as “sleeping through” but could technically say she was! I’m sure your mum friends in baby groups are all very nice but I assure you, half are defining “sleeping through” differently and the other half are lying. One will be some lucky one whose baby actually sleeps from 7-7 without feeding or dummy drops. But she’s a weirdo 🤣

@Elliesmumma where are you getting that definition from? It’s not one I’ve seen. The ‘original’ sleeping through study had babies sleeping 12-5am as ‘sleeping through’ and its skewed things ever since.

If it makes you feel any better , my Ds was two before he ever slept through .. and certainly not consistently .

I agree with pp if it is causing more problems that it solves get rid . It takes a couple of days but it’s done .

you just have to find the energy to do it

The sleep foundation. Also Huckleberry say 6 hours uninterrupted:
https://huckleberrycare.com/blog/when-do-babies-start-sleeping-through-the-night

I’m sure I’ve read it in other places as well, but couldn’t say with certainty which ones without checking the books directly but the general theme was 6 or more hours, with the longest stretch being the first part of the night, then more frequent wakings after that during the night.

Both of mine did this from similar ages. I tried to wait it out but ended up getting rid of the dummies. My son was about 8 months and had no interest whatsoever in finding or putting his own dummy in despite my best efforts- I managed to switch it for a comforter teddy that he sucked a corner of (and still sleeps with every night aged 6!) My daughter was around 6 months and since then plays with her belly button to go to sleep! After a couple of nights of around 7mins crying at bedtime, we all slept much better and were much happier for it.