When was baby able to get themselves to sleep??

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11 month still not able to do this..any tips??

My son has got himself to sleep from he was approx 7 months, 11 months now and other than the odd time he goes down for naps and bed time in his cot alone. He's far from being a toddler. He can also wake in the middle of the night and settle himself back to sleep provided he isn't hungry or unwell.

Genuine question - what is the evidence to support this? A lot of anti sleep training folk trot this out but in reality what developmental stage for babies/ children varies so much? Think about it, you can have a four month old independently settle themselves to sleep but not a two year old? Literally nothing else they do developmentally has a scale that large e.g. walking, talking, crawling, sitting etc? Sleep a skill that can be taught.

to answer your question OP, my DD was 6 months when she could self settle, been a brilliant little sleeper since, my DS 5 months has done it a couple of times but his sleep is still shocking. At 11 months though they can get themselves to sleep and can do it reliably but I would say your routine is a little bit off? You would ideally want a 7am wake, 9am ish nap for 30 mins and then long lunchtime nap from 12ish? That’s quite a late sleep which could effect bedtime. You want her to be sufficiently tired so she’s not putting up a fight. Then when she does just put your hand on her chest and shush her until she falls asleep. You’re there and she just needs the reassurance and comfort to her herself over the line to sleep.

My first was about 4 years old.

My second did it from birth.

DD was about 14 months but that’s because we’d got into a bad habit of rocking her to sleep. We didn’t mind initially as it was about 15 mins of rocking and then she’d knock out and stay asleep all night but then it was getting to a point of rocking for over an hour!! So we did sleep training the only thing that worked was controlled crying (not saying you should do this method it’s just the only thing that worked for us). She cracked in within 3 days and it changed our lives!!

My son was 14 months and we had to end up doing controlled crying.

@Jobsharenightmare I'm so glad this worked for you but from a mum who was suffering with PND and my relationship falling apart due to lack of sleep, we sleep trained my son for our own sanity.

It wasn't pleasant for 3 nights however my son went from being miserable due to constant night waking and early morning and a grumpy mum to a well rested and happier child.

Parents don't sleep train their children to be cruel- sometimes it's necessary.

DD at 4 months, i used gentle cry it out and stayed in the room out of sight, with intervals of reassuring. Gradually you leave the room.

DS at 2.5 months. I used pick up, put down method because he sleeps like his dad and was 75% there by himself anyway.

Both kids asleep by 8pm. I start at 7pm.

My first son was was about 10 weeks old when we went to stay with my mother. She suggested i gave him some baby rice to help him settle and to lay him down to go to sleep - and he did from then on. No rocking, feeding blah blah. `Old fashioned advice maybe ( this was 30 years ago) but it worked.