Her own room!

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I wish that someone had written this down in letters ten foot tall or had shouted it at 100 decibles in my ear. (I probably still wouldn't have 'heard'.

We have just put our 6 month old (breastfed) daughter in her own room and, after months of constant waking, crying, wanting feeding, only falling asleep if fed, controlled crying, not picking up, screaming night after night after night and GUILT, GUILT, GUILT - put in her own room, she finally slept through. The first night she woke at 3, cried for a few minutes and then slept till 6.30. The second night she woke at 4, grizzled for a minute or two, slept till 7. Now she sleeps through, 7 - 7.
I only wish I'd done it earlier. Though I do miss her in our room, I know we were keeping her awake as much as she was doing it to us.

Now I have to learn to sleep through too.

I thought the recommendation was because it meant babies would wake up more often (and be woken), therefore not going into a really deep sleep and potentially stopping breathing. That is, all those am wake up calls are potentially a good thing (every hour for me last night!) However still a pain in the ! I guess with all these things, the probabilities are low so the marginal gain may be small. Depends on the trade-off you want to make - small probability of death vs longer sleep for mum and dad. Now while this seems a bit cruel, we make these sorts of trade-offs all the time eg when driving a car...

I am one that definitely needs her sleep to be able to be able to function properly. I find that if I have had a good nights sleep, I can deal with absolutely everything. Obviously, when DD was still waking up during the night, I accepted this but once she went through the night she was put in her big sister's room (only because we have a four bedroom house - one room in the loft and husband is sleeping there!).

Hi all. My dd Aimée is 18 months, and is still breastfed. For the first six months or so she co-slept with my husband and I. I found this a lot easier, especially at first as I had had a c-section. It meant we got good nights sleep once we had got over the first few sleepless times, as Aimée would often do the great thing of latching herself on without waking me.
After six months we started placing her in her cot when she was asleep. Towards one year we had got in to a kind of routine.. then we bought a new house. Due to the work being done, plastering etc...we all had to share a room, a mad thought in a 3 bedroomed house! Aimée became accustomed to sleeping n our room again, and often with us (as dh has to be up at 4:30am...not good with a screaming child) in our bed. But now that we've got her room done, she happily goes to bed awake, and goes to sleep alone.
I think that co-sleeping helps you bond with your baby, particularly with my husband, who was quite left out, particularly when fussing relatives where about, or I was breastfeeding..it is sometimes difficult to get them to sleep on their own..but I have problems myself sleeping without my husband next to me, and I'm 20! It just takes time... and a bit of patience