Rubbish sleeper personalities?

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So DS sometimes slept through when he was teeny tiny but has never slept through again since he was 3 months. He's now 15 months, and wakes one or two times a night, once my hubby puts him down in the early part of the night but if there's a second later waking, normally around 2-4am I feed him. Yes, yes admire my sparkly beautiful rod for my own back... on similar lines he still gets hysterical if you put him in his cot wide awake, so I tend to feed him to sleep or else cuddle and sing to him til he's very snoozy and then tuck him in. My partner can get him off with a shush pat, but he'll no longer fall asleep for me doing that.
Anyway we're almost resigned to this, although possibly considering nightweaning over xmas, but was talking to friends with more experience and also my HV and they said it was their more gifted/inquistive kids who were the worst sleepers. They were probably just being nice and offering me some consolation for no decent sleep in over a year, but do you think it tends to be the brighter kids who have the most difficulties sleeping?

maybe it is an indication of the caregivers' personalities too?

However much we disaprove of it, crying-it-out does work, more emotional parents are less inclined to do it, resulting in more disturbed sleep for themselves.

I remember someone posting on here that she did not approve of CIO or CC, but that, once every day, she would put her babies down for a nap and go for a shower, where she could not hear them. I would never have done that (no judgement intended), but eventually did resort to controlled crying.

Some other parents always wait 10 minutes before responding to a baby, and don't see that as really leaving them to cry. At every squeak from my DD, I rushed to comfort her, making a rod etc.

Unwind, I don't think you can ever say x + y = z with children. It's never that simple. You're right I think. It's a mix of personality, nurture, environment and a hundred other things besides.

The CIO thing would be a problem for me for two reasons. One, I don't think it does work ie it doesn't teach a child that sleep is a desirable, safe thing. I think it teaches them that you don't come when asked for. And two, dd never cried. She wasn't cross or unhappy. She just does not need sleep. It would be different if she was tired and grouchy and needing sleep but never giving in. But she's just not in need of sleep like most children. But she's v good and will amuse herself with books/jigsaws/drawing etc and then will tell us when she's tired and take herself off to bed.

I couldn't do cc/cio either. DD is very independent and not clingy at all. She knows when she needs me, I come. She self settles, goes to bed happily and is not needy at all. But she's never going to be a 7-7er!

unwind- I'm not sure it can be care-givers' personalities- my DS sleeps anytime, any where- he's fantastic! He has had the same care-givers as DD- even same nursery staff.

I don't think CIO will work on an almost 5yo

agree with unpure - it must be a mix of about a million different things!

I like to think that DD's excellent sleeping is also due in part to the fact that every time I put her to bed I comment on what a lovely comfy cot/bed she has

My DD doesn't entirely believe me about her snuggly sleepy sack yet, but I'm working on it...

my ds1 (now nearly 11) was a nightmare sleeper. He is a smart kid, but no genius, our most sensitive child, (even though he is roughty-toughty rugby player), very compassionate, and v. v. v. physically active. And he's quit cute I think, with a face only a mother could love...

Hiya the longest flight DS was on was to Cornwall so not very long at all but he did sleep on the outward journey - for 20 minutes on my shoulder - however it was while he was recovering from a hideous tummy bug so he was still v weak and not himself. He's been on a 12 hour train journey and slept loads - but he was 11 weeks and it was when we mistakenly believed he was a sleeper. Argh. I think you might have to be prepared for him to conk out only when he's utterly exhausted. Sorry.... but really good luck.