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Please vote in our "What do you think about the On Mumsnet This Week column in the Daily Mail?" poll

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JustineMumsnet · 02/09/2009 12:54

Hello all,
So am back in Blighty and have caught up on everything posted and all the ongoing correspondence with the DM that's gone on while I've been away. (Sorry very poor communications on hols so haven't really been in the loop but Carrie and team have filled me in now.)
Thanks all for the input as ever.

There are a few things you've raised that we need to address and clarify. So, as ever, apologies in advance for the long post.

The first I think is MNHQ's attitude towards this column and why we didn't try and put a stop to it earlier, i.e. the moment we found out about it. (Recap for those who may have missed: we didn't know in advance that it was going to happen, the first we knew about it was when we saw the first column being discussed on MN and initially we didn't think we had any legal grounds to contest the DM's use of MN quotes. We subsequently established some time after column 2 that the DM is, in fact, most likely infringing MN copyright).

As I said early on, a weekly column in the DM is not something we'd have sought. We share many Mumsnetters' misgivings about the views and general tone of the paper - particularly it's attitudes towards working women, immigrants etc. And as I've also said we've as yet detected no noticeable increase in visitors on Thursdays when the column is published (or on any other days for that matter). Nor is it a column that fills us with pride because it adequately represents the joy and wonder that is Mumsnet. So why - as some have understandably wondered - are we not banging our fists about stopping the darned thing and have we not fired off a barrage of legal threats? Why instead do we at HQ seem a bit ambivalent about whether the column exists or not?

The main answer is this. Like it or not, the Daily Mail is a very influential beast, probably one of the most politically influential institutions in the UK. So, irrespective of the content of these columns, the very fact that the Daily Mail have decided that Mumsnet is prominent and interesting enough to base a weekly column around increases our clout. Clout when it comes to asking government ministers to consider things like our miscarriage campaign, clout when we try to persuade Gok Wan's PR that he ought to pay us a visit, or when the Tories are thinking about environment policy or what they're going to do to increase breastfeeding rates.

We also have a distinct reluctance to "go legal" with anyone after our experience of GF going legal with us - the legal system and lawyers (particularly opposing lawyers) have a way of eating up all your resources, not to mention your will to live. And call us lily-livered if you like, we'd rather not be at the top the DM's hit list if there's a way of avoiding it.

Plus, from the correspondence Carrie's had with the mail in the last couple of weeks, it's clear that they would are prepared to take steps to minimise the privacy risks.

That said, we accept many of the reservations argued well here and in previous threads about the imperfect nature of the association.

In short, those of you who've accused us of residing on the fence are probably right - we are a bit and tbh it's not very comfortable!
So where next?

We think perhaps it would be best both to help us get off the fence and, if it comes to it, to lay the column to rest, to put the matter to the vote. We recognise that it's not a perfect solution but there have been a number of objections raised about this and we'd like to see exactly what it is that folks are objecting to - MN in the Daily Mail per se. MN in the Daily Mail without MN control over content. MN in the Daily Mail in its current guise/format - for example would it be OK if it were it a funny weekly column written by someone like MorningPaper (they'd never have she's far too rude of course)? Or perhaps you don't object at all (and you have an aversion to posting on this thread ).

Hopefully they'll be a clear conclusion and we promise to abide by it and to do our darnedest to put it into action as quickly as possible.

We're sorry this has dragged on a bit - it is a bit tricky to conduct this type of negotiation in public, particularly when there's a whiff of the legals about - and as we all know (if we didn't already) MN is a very public board, open for all to see and easily searchable etc. At some points we do sometimes have to just hope that you trust that we are not the bad guys who are trying to manipulate, exploit and mislead you all for our own ends (many thanks to those who have said as much). If you think that we are then there's nowt much we can say I suspect to ever sway you otherwise - but you're welcome on MN all the same because it's not really about us, after all.

It also doesn't help that it all kicked off in holiday season which is how it always is (GF the same) - sod's law and all that. Anyway humble apologies for not being a bit more accessible/on the ball in the last few weeks. We are almost all back at full strength now and generally at your disposal .

So here's our very quick poll - please fill it in (just the once please). It won't gain you entry in any competitions to win a family holiday outside of school holidays but it will most certainly influence what we do next.

Many thanks.

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justabouteatingchocolate · 04/09/2009 17:22

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madameDefarge · 04/09/2009 17:23

I am confused, on the one hand MNHQ has stated they do not want a legal fight with DM.

On the other they say have no reason to suppose the DM would not pull the column if asked.

morningpaper · 04/09/2009 17:25

oh GREAT now DH has found the reciept for the window cleaning which was about four months' worth so now looks like I'm paying for Something Other Than Windowcleaning

Today hasn't gone very well TBH

LadyThompson · 04/09/2009 17:25

I don't want a MN column in the DM, even if it's filetted by other members of MN. I didn't sign up to MN to provide free copy for the DM, thanks. In point of fact, I do a spot of freelance stuff for another newspaper in their group - but that's a different kettle of pyjamas. Yes, it's a public forum yadayadayada but most of us write on here 'freely' and not with the inevitable circumspection we would if we were writing for publication.

MNHQ seems flattered by the DM's interest, Morningpaper seems flattered by the potential gig (nothing against you personally, MP, you're an interesting poster) and the whole thing has gone a bit yuck-o.

The books were the thing end of the wedge. This is...well, the, er, fat end of the wedge. That's my twopennyworth....

LadyThompson · 04/09/2009 17:27

I meant THIN end of the wedge. Obviously.

Good grief, I am raving.

morningpaper · 04/09/2009 17:27

I would say there is a certain amount of cognitive dissonance all round in the decision making process

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 04/09/2009 17:28

VVV?

:paranoid:

Am I slightly smelling of camembert?

morningpaper · 04/09/2009 17:31

Don't worry I am so terrified of you all that I will make it anodyne and dull so the DM will say "Off you fuck, thicko" and send their proper reporter around to raid the picnic basket instead

justabouteatingchocolate · 04/09/2009 17:33

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LadyThompson · 04/09/2009 17:36

Don't be scared of us, MP. You're just the cat's paw to prod the juicy piece of fish that MNHQ will dangle in front of the potential advertisers on MN.

Or am I being overcynical?

I tried to keep my metaphors consistent at the expense of meaning, didn't I?

morningpaper · 04/09/2009 17:37

I'm feeling more like this TBH

Pielight · 04/09/2009 17:40

I think I agree with Prunerz. It is all a bit rubbish - the poll is a bit rubbish too. The majority of people don't want an association with the DM, thank you v. much. The fact that you split the vote on some version of the column in DM and then added them together to make a majority vote was a bit rubbish too. Unintentionally rubbish, I am often unintentionally rubbish, I can sympathize with this.

I feel for MNHQ though. Because they're trying to do right by everyone. Which is why it isn't working, because I don't think there will be a consensus or even can be, because nobody is really in control of this situation. It's a real shame that the DM are all over MN, and it's interesting too. This isn't anybodies fault though.

I think the horse is well out the stable. All our hanging about in the stable yard discussing whether we think the door should be open, shut or half-open or garlanded with flowers is a bit pointless.

Think MNHQ need to kick it shut, or open up. That will be that. Is their decision.

Though also think they're in a tricky position, and trying to do best by everyone. Not being sneaky or underhand.

LadyThompson · 04/09/2009 17:41

Justa, I don't blame MP for being flattered or for taking the potential work. Seriously, not one dratchem. I don't think she is flattered by the publicity, just flattered by the offer of the job. I don't think this makes her a bad person! And from what I have seen of her over my couple of years on here, I think she is a good person. But I do think that it will inevitably colour her view of whether the whole DM thing is a good idea.

And I think MNHQ are keen to go with the whole DM thing and are just trying to find a politic way of doing so.

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pofacedandproud · 04/09/2009 17:43

'I will make it anodyne and dull' What, duller than sandwich fillings and what to wear at the school gate? Blimey, got your work cut out...

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dogofpoints · 04/09/2009 17:46

lol @ the huge numbe r of votes 'not under any circumstances'.

Do you aLL think this is a private club?

Pielight · 04/09/2009 17:47

Also LadyT - if I was them, I'd be trying to find a way of going with the DM to make people feel better about - ie wheeling out MP - because it is a compromise. A compromise about the fact that nobody can do anything about the DM lifting stuff in the first place.

morningpaper · 04/09/2009 17:50

"Wheeling out MP"

I sound like the Face of Bo

Pielight · 04/09/2009 17:51

I just put you in a stable. In the dark. With hay.

Am now going to lock up all those poor vulnerable stable lads

pofacedandproud · 04/09/2009 17:51

The face of Body Odour? Confused

Pielight · 04/09/2009 17:52

Bo. You know the old guy, with huge weird stretchy face kept in a cannister, who was in fact - utterly bizarrely - Jack Sparrow. You know, the face of Bo

morningpaper · 04/09/2009 17:53

Tis a Dr Who reference

I don't know who that man is. I'm sure he would be rather discombobulated to know housewives are staring at him

morningpaper · 04/09/2009 17:54

stable lads, you say?

do they clean windows?

morningpaper · 04/09/2009 17:54

Am I a horse on wheels?

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