is being told to fuck off acceptable on mn?

[hatwoman]

actually a geniune question - it's not a personal attack as such. but god it's pissed me off. I expect this isn't the best way of dealing with it either but fuck itmumsnet.com/Talk/1372/390087

here VVV

Give me a clue monkey...its a farking long thread

22:37:15

I used "Find in this page" on my browser

Thanks hatwoman, that thread on Zimbabwe really put me in the picture of the character of some mumsnetters, and the character of others. I'm making a mental note.

Oh don't bear grudges Mrs M. Best not to bear grudges when drink (Hurly surmises) had been taken.

Perhaps people should stop with the 'drink had been taken' line.
Seeing as you have no idea and all that.

Ain't bearing grudges at all. Just making mental notes, God knows I've said some dumb things but I have always apologised or made good, as in RL.

If the most articulate thing I could think of was to say fuck off to someone then I probably wouldn't bother to say anything, hardly makes you look intelligent does it.

And yes I do say it in RL, mostly when driving.

resorting to expletives is indicative of a poorly articulated argument, and someone who has frankly lost the plot, so don't worry about it.

MN is not real life - and internet chat rooms as such can be inflammatory/cheeky because it is anonymous medium

certainly if i have disagreed with someone i don't recall it or carry MN grudges- cos it is not real just a bunch of women blethering

JV, it was a surmise at the time but (a) it was pretty obvious that she was three sheets to the wind and (b) she's now said she'd been drinking.

It was great that she was brave enough to come out and admit she was drinking at the time and that she has a drink problem. Great as well to see so many MNers rallying round.

To clarify - Generally, that is to say if it's said in all seriousness, telling someone to 'f* off' isn't acceptable on mn and if it's reported to us, we will delete. This said, if it happens late at night, it may not be until the following day that we get round to deleting.

It began with post By lojomojo on Sat 15-Sep-07 21:13:25

I think it was Desi who told her to f' off too - but justifiably here I think, if not on the Mugabe thread.

MN can stir up a lot of emotions and F off is sometimes exactly what you want to say and sometimes can't help yourself - personally I don't think it is as bad as some of the snidier comments that can get really nasty and lets face it there are worse things in life than being on the receiving end of the odd f off on MN.

I have been sorely tempted sometimes - it usually means I get agressive in a different way though, which some people take personally anyway. I'm never proud of myself if I wake up the next day an think I've intimidated someone - but sometimes the only answer is just to say "you're argument is idiotic and based on no evidence, only ignorance and predjudice" but what I really want to say is 'shut up you fool" as arguing with idiots isn't the most edifying thing for anyone to do.