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Tell MNHQ why you use Mumsnet

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EllieMumsnet · 27/09/2018 16:09

Here at MNHQ we would really like to get to know our users better and would therefore love to know why you use Mumsnet and if Mumsnet has managed to help you in any way.

Is the main reason you use Mumsnet for the advice from other users? And if so, what advice do you look for in particular or is it on everything and anything? Do you use Mumsnet as a place to browse the funny threads and have a bit of ‘you’ time? Is it more the product/service reviews and recommendations that you use Mumsnet for? Has the support of fellow Mumsnet users helped you get through a tough time? Or maybe you have created long-term friendships with other users and come on to chat to them.

Whatever the reasons you use Mumsnet and any stories you have on how Mumsnet has helped you, we would love to hear them so please share them on the thread below.

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Tell MNHQ why you use Mumsnet
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RatRolyPoly · 30/09/2018 10:04

Why do you think I'm angry Bernard? It's an odd interpretation of my posts. Especially as historically on here it isn't me who has the problem with people holding different views from my own.

Molokonono · 30/09/2018 10:05

Jesus, what a tantrum. Because women are dared to have their very own views.

Good grief.

CurbsideProphet · 30/09/2018 10:08

I've not had children yet, but I've been here for nearly 10 years. I lurk / occasionally post on the "main" areas (Chat, Telly Addicts etc). The Feminism section is inspirational. So many posters doing what they can to support / empower their fellow women. It often feels like Gilead is on its way and we all have to be careful what we say to whom, in case we're in the presence of an Eye. Hopefully Mumsnet will remain the one place where women can be honest with each other.

Beesandfrogsandfleas · 30/09/2018 10:08

Give it a rest Rat this thread is for answering the OP, not debate. You can’t police why other people say they like mumsnet.

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 30/09/2018 10:09

Started with the ttc, then babies, toddlers, relationships.
I spend way too long on it every day. I have some little niche areas I post on regularly, mainly style & beauty. I have found some kindred spirits on here.

UpstartCrow · 30/09/2018 10:10

There are rules about not spamming webchats, I was going to say its a shame they don't apply here. But I changed my mind.
The sneery ageism in Rats post should be left to stand.

treaclesoda · 30/09/2018 10:11

This is a perfect illustration of how women can't win. If lots of people come on this thread and say 'I use mumsnet for advice on nappies and fashion' then people can point and say 'you see, feminism is extremist thinking, ordinary women don't really identify with it'. If hundreds of people say 'actually, I started reading about femisim and learnt so much and realised that it was important to me' then people will say 'those nasty feminists have jumped on the thread in order to distort the voices of ordinary women'.

So one way or another, it amounts to 'women, know your place'. Hmm

YetAnotherSpartacus · 30/09/2018 10:11

Yes - I think we need to leave the debate behind here and focus on the OP. It's tempting to respond to goady posts, but I think it best not to. Let the goaders burn themselves out without pissing on them.

BishopBrennansArse · 30/09/2018 10:12

Used to be to connect with other parents of disabled children but as most of them have been driven away due to HQ's allowing of horrendous disablism in the name of 'education' and 'debate' most of them have gone. Luckily I managed to keep in touch via social media. As a result I don't post here much any more.

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 30/09/2018 10:14

yes, sorry. I'm going to stop rising to rat now

JJBurnelsBass · 30/09/2018 10:15

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hungryhippie · 30/09/2018 10:15

100% for the feminist boards. So many intelligent and just downright brilliant women on there!

kaldefotter · 30/09/2018 10:16

Came here to be entertained by AIBU, especially the CF threads.

But it’s FWR that keeps me here. So many clever, critical-thinking women here, and I have been immensely educated by their knowledge.

Wilhelminawonka · 30/09/2018 10:18

I found mn when pregnant with dd2
Started at aibu with penis beaker, quickly found chat and classics. Moved to relationships within months which changed my life completely by realising what an awful marriage i was in.
Then found feminism which has taught me so much.
Relationships and feminism teaching women that theu don't need to put up and shut up but with patience and understanding of why it's not always as easy as that.
Totally invaluable

WSPU · 30/09/2018 10:19

I began c14 years ago when DC was tiny. Over those years I’ve been interested in different things at different life stages - nappy rash, primary schools, bullying, Brexit, politics etc... But always feminism. The quality of debate and analysis has always been high and thought provoking. I don’t always agree, but I always learn.

Wilhelminawonka · 30/09/2018 10:19

Although controversially I also love the Christmas section

RedToothBrush · 30/09/2018 10:23

Why can't you buy nappies, do feminism AND look around the site for other bits which relate to having children?

Is this not a possibility?

MN is a place where you can talk about the impact of having kids without actually talking about the kids all the time.

It's a place where you can talk shite you wouldn't otherwise be able to, cos you've got kids and that stops you socialising in other ways, without talking about kids.

It's a place where you can be intelligent without being put down for it. People tend to assume that once you have kids you turn into a jibbering idiot. Being around others in the same boat has the effect of rendering that the utter bollocks it should be.

It's funny how the stereotype of MN that persists in the media and other areas of social media, that mothers are hysterical and stupid and yet there seems to be the suggestion that the most popular areas of MN are perhaps the areas that go completely counter to that. Remembering that there are lots of highly professional women here who are frequently dismissed in that stereotype.

That does raise question of whether MNs success does lie precisely in social attitudes which are anti mother and just generally hostile to women voicing intelligent opinions.

I don't always post in certain sections, but because I respect the intelligence and wisdom of MN, I know if I want to find something or ask a question MN is right there as a reference point - and often is more useful than dry Web pieces on how to deal with x problem which frankly are all too often written by people who seem to live in a parallel dimension to me. Or are just downright patronising or judgmental about how you are 'doing it wrong' (again often in a profound way that assumes the stupidity and uselessness of women/mothers).

In that kind of context, I'd also pose the question about why the feminism section might be particularly popular...

... Cos quite frankly I'm sick of being treated as a stupid woman who isnt important enough to listen to or be thought of in huge political decision making. And the broadness of that feeling encompasses everything from health, to work, to education, to housing and everything else that stems from that.

MNs power is contained simply in women talking and being relatively free to talk in a way that everywhere else seems to restrict. It doesn't actually matter what women talk about initially because if women are allowed to talk it eventually exposes the ways in which women are restricted.

Certainly that's precisely why I ended up here long term.

RedToothBrush · 30/09/2018 10:25

I love the Christmas section too!

RedToothBrush · 30/09/2018 10:30

Incidentally I learnt from MN that Ali nappies were really good. I also learnt from MN that different nappies are cut differently so if you have a skinny baby they might not fit the same nappies as a chuckier baby. From here MN told me that, actually it might be a false economy to use cheap nappies if they leak all over the place so you might be better to get the more expensive ones. This isn't because you have brand snobbery but because all nappies are not equal and all babies are not the same shape. And it's not you putting the nappy on incorrectly either.

RedToothBrush · 30/09/2018 10:31

Aldi

weebarra · 30/09/2018 10:33

I've been on MN for about 7 years. I can't remember why I came, but I've had so much support and tears and laughs on here.
I got through my third pregnancy with the support of my Antenatal group, and we're still supporting each other now.
I was diagnosed with cancer when DC3 was 8 weeks old and the woman on the cancer support thread helped me through a hugely dark time.
The Christmas bargain thread ably compered by @reastie has saved me hundreds of pounds.
Recently though, it's been FWR - I thought I was the only gender critical woman in the world but now I know that there are lots of us. I'm proud of being a feminist and I'm much more educated about being one now!

BeUpStanding · 30/09/2018 10:37

Came here about 9 years ago for the infertility / conception boards, then adoption - thanks to the honesty and support of MN I realised that being a mother was not to be my path in life, and I'm totally fine with that Smile.

I stuck around as MN Talk was the best corner of the internet. Full of funny, feisty, intelligent, caring women talking about anything and everything. I have spent a fortune over the years on things recommended by MNetters.

The past year though I have taken up permanent residence in FWR. Whilst I am grateful to MN for hosting a conversation that is practically banned on all other platforms, I do find the censorship & policing of language on FWR extremely difficult. The amount of women who have been banned or have left because of it upsets me.

Datun · 30/09/2018 10:43

if women are allowed to talk it eventually exposes the ways in which women are restricted.

Exactly. I can see a graphic in my head of the entire site tumbling, rolling, separating. Cohesive here, and disparate there. Like water flowing over stones. Coming together, only to part again before returning.

So it evolves completely naturally. Whatever turns up is generated by an extraordinary number of women. And a number of extraordinary women.

Without interference, without censure.

It's incredibly powerful.

IStillMissBlockbuster · 30/09/2018 10:45

I have been on MN for many years as well. Can't actually remember how many, just after moldies I think and well before Dittany left.

I started using mumsnet for information on conceiving for a relative who was experiencing infertility. Then I stayed for the brilliant humour, recommendations of products and recipes, sad relationships threads where women tried and continue to try to convince other women that they are worth more than the shit they often put up with.

And then FWR totally changed my life. It challenged the status quo and opened my eyes to the world I live in. It continues to be a place of rigorous thought and without it, I wouldn't be returning to mumsnet one quarter as much as i do now. By the way, please reinstate MaryZ and Posie Parker and stop gaslighting women through censorship.

Datun · 30/09/2018 10:46

BeUpStanding

, I do find the censorship & policing of language on FWR extremely difficult.

Yes. I know that contradicts my post a little. But I do agree that one particular topic on the FWR has been held to a higher standard than the rest of the site.

However, I still agree with Red, that the nature of the site, i.e. predominantly women being given the freedom to talk, does highlight how we are mor restricted in real life.