Mother's Day - MNHQ needs your do's and don'ts.

[AbbyMumsnet]

We're putting together a list of Mother's Day do's and don'ts and we'd like your help. (You know the sort of thing: Do let me have a lie-in. Don't ask me, "What's for breakfast?". Do buy me beautiful things. Don't make the mistake of thinking that a red and black thong from Ann Summers qualifies as such.) The idea being that you can leave our humorous yet helpful list lying around somewhere that your DP will see it, so that your Mother's Day passes without a hitch. (Aren't we good to you?)

We look forward to receiving your suggestions. Ta v much. Mumsnet HQ

Thanks for all your help so far. Please keep those ideas coming! (Yes, we know it's ages away, but we're trying to get ahead.)

Please help her to make a card. Shoving one that she made at nursery/school under my nose is not the same thing. That's it really. No need to spend any money.

Note to Dads:

DO buy the children's Mother a card FROM THEM or even better make one WITH THEM!!

Just because you can't be arsed the point is it is MOTHER'S DAY and from the children to their wonderful Mummy!!!

Bitter? Me? Never!!

Mother's Day is March 18th, the day after DD2's 2nd birthday - should be a lovely weekend.

shimmy, I disagree. I think it's naff to expect dads to get cards on behalf of babies. A bit like getting a Christmas card from your pet!

Mothers Day is for children to show appreciation of their mothers.

Valentine's Day is for your partner to show you their appreciation. Don't get the two confused.

It's all commercialised bollocks anyway!

Oh, and whatever you do, don't turn up with flowers from the garage .......

Esp the morning after mother's day!

Please remember to get me a card not just your mum. Not too bothered about presents or flowers but the aforementioned card from my children would be nice.

A lie in
Tea and toast in bed
A peacful day without having to spend the whole day with either set of grandparents or have to do all the cooking etc myself.

asda online do fab (and very good price) picture mugs! u can upload your picture, be creative add a slogan! cheeky pic of kids., looks like u have put lots of thought into it! and then fill it up all day with tea/coffee for mummy to drink!!

A lie in with a cup of coffee - no breakfast needed. BUT when I come down children should have been fed breakfast, ideally dressed as well.
Card HAS to be homemade. Ds can write, so make him write the card. Dd can now do 'sort of' kisses on the card so make her.
If you start the card making before the Saturday you should manage it without tanrums.
Not too bothered about presents but do NOT expect to get a present from Tesco's that I will appreciate.
I do NOT like the pub near your office. Cafe Rouge is probably the best child friendly place near us. But I really like Carluccio's - is there one near us?

Should I print out this thread for dh ?

dh, please dont go to bed once i have got up, having breakfasted in bed, saying how knackered you are

it is actually mother's day not mothers morning ok?

My dh is the most unromantic bloke around (but blooming handy with diy). So.... After being with him 16 years and having 3 children (the eldest being 6) I no longer wait in hopeful wide eyed anticipation. No from January onwards I compile a list and hand it to him. Unfortunately this hasn't always worked (even when given shop, location AND barcodes). Fortunately at 6, almost 7, my eldest daughter is now extremely susceptible to prompting! and could wear done (nag) a donkey.

must agree that it is the children that really love the whole day

Don't even think of a card "from" a child unless they are old enough to write, squiggle or at least produce a handprint with paint. By all means send a card saying you appreciate what a great mother your dp is or will make. But no cards from the unborn.

And a message to my dh - get up and play with ds and have breakfast with him and leave me to wallow in bed. Please. Just once a year is all I ask.

And remember to book somewhere nice for lunch far enough in advance that we can actually go on the correct day.

might have to disagree with you there 4bob - a woman's first mother's day is quite important I reckon and if DH "forgets" (even if the child in questions is only 5 weeks old) then he will be in big trouble......

or maybe that's just in our house...

Mothers day presents/cards, unless made by the child/bought by them, count for nothing imho. Cards bought by DH and "signed " by a 0-5/6 year old, are a pile of commercialised S&^%*. A proper lie in, avoiding dressing, breakfast, and dh taking the kids to the park for a couple of hours is a GREAT mothers day. A £1.50 card and a bunch of flowers supposedly from a 2 year old is pointless and meaningless.

DO NOT come on Mumsnet or similar making snide remarks about how dreadful it is that Mother's Day has gone so commericial, and how a shop-bought card means nothing and how presents are totally unecessary. We all do Mother's Day our own way... save your venting for dads who forget!

OMG I didn't KNOW Milge had posted that just before me I swear!!

But Milge.. it's not meaningless.. how can you say that? Live and let live!

your first mother;s day is equally important..

Bump

DON'T say "do you want me to get up with the kids"
DO just do it

DO arrange something nice for us all to do that day, even if it's going for a long walk followed by a drink in the pub
DON'T ask me to decide where to go

DO get the kids ready yourself, including the changing bag
DON'T rely on me to remember scarf, gloves, babywipes, bottle

DON'T spend lots of money on flowers
DO buy me a card from my DSs

DO remember that things like Mother's Day and birthdays MATTER to me
DON'T think that just because you don't care about them doesn't mean that I don't

phew - that was quite therapeutic!!!

When is mothers day in the UK?

18th March

From reading this thread I would say

do find out what your dw actually would like.

don't rely on someone else's opinions because they may be quite different

And, if MrBrastraps is lurking...

do take the children to choose something, don't really care what it is . They love choosing presents

do help them make a carddo load the dishwasher - and unload it afterwards.

don't forget to phone your mother

I don't like Mother's Day. Because it's too connected with the idea that the rest of the year the mother is the household drudge and dogsbody but - whoopee, lucky her - she gets one day where she doesn't have to do all the chores.

I go for having lie-ins and other people doing breakfast and other chores a lot more often than that.

(Retreats into unpopular humourless feminist corner....)