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Smacking 'does no harm if a child feels loved': do you agree?

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HelenMumsnet · 18/04/2013 21:30

Hello.

We're wondering how you feel about new research that suggests smacking does children no harm as long as they know it is for the right reasons and feel loved.

The publication of this study - which focused on teenagers, it must be said - is causing quite a stir, with, according to the Telegraph, 'parenting groups and charities [reacting] angrily to the findings, [and] maintaining that a child can suffer long term damage from physical discipline'.

In Britain, parents are not banned from smacking their children but it is illegal to inflict injuries causing more than a temporary reddening of the skin.

So, do you agree that smacking is fine, as long as it's tempered with a backdrop of love and affection? Or do you think that smacking is never the answer? Please do tell.

HelenMumsnet · 18/04/2013 22:02

@Shallishanti

would help if the telegrapn had given a link- haven't the energy to track down the original research....but, I'd say
  1. this was done with mexican american teenagers and they admit that violence against children (as I would term it) is more tolerated in that culture
  2. a strong attachment gives some protection against the damage violence causes, which is not surprising, and more likely to be the case if the child looks around and sees that such violence is 'the norm'- if you get hit AND you know that your friends don't, feeling loved is less likely to help you not feel worthless, humiliated, angry.
  3. That might explain all the people who claim 'never did me any harm'- they are from earlier generations or different cultures

Hi Shallishanti. Think the orig research is here but I can't get the link to work right now.

Full citation: Miguelina Germán, Nancy A. Gonzales, Darya Bonds McClain, Larry Dumka, and Roger Millsap Maternal Warmth Moderates the Link between (2013) Harsh Discipline and Later Externalizing Behaviors for Mexican American Adolescents, Parenting: Science and Practice, DOI: 10.1080/15295192.2013.756353

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