@jodeg
I do not see this as a choice between strict and what you refer to as "batshit crazy". I don't understand the need to engage in this way.
Because shouting at children, forcing kids to wear blazers in the summer, forcing them to wet themselves etc IS batshit crazy. What would you call that? Tough love?
You appear to have no respect for anybody who doesn't agree with you.
I have no respect for the bootlickers and the enablers who allow bully headteachers to terrorise and bully kids.
I am so sensitive about this because I know very well the consequences that toxic environments can have on adults. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy, let alone on children. Has your mental health ever been so bad that you lost weight, lost sleep, became a wreck, were unable to function? If not, then you cannot understand.
You refer to "Brits (who) are brainwashed and incapable of realising (things)".
No, I made a very specific and well-substantiated example about uniforms. brits love to say that uniforms lead to better behaviour and better academic results, but the evidence on this is inconclusive at best. Many countries manage well without and the academic studies on the UK do not support the notion that uniforms = better behaviour and better results. Yet uniforms remain so engrained in British culture. I told you that a headteacher said research supports his stance, and when I asked what research he fobbed me off.
If this was such a straightforward open-and-shut case of abuse then surely there would have been Ofsted reports over the last 20 years to imply that something isn't right.
Nonsense. History teaches us that abuse and impropriety can and do go in many organisations for prolonger periods of time. You cannot say that it cannot be true because otherwise it would have been picked up.
Why did abuse in the Catholic Church go on for so long? In the Anglican one, with Welby protecting that despicable individual?
Weinstein? Crispey Odin? Al-fayed?
Why did no one speak out? Were all these cases false because otherwise someone should have spoken out sooner???
Could it be that the school has in fact helped hundreds of children (thousands) to achieve their academic and emotional potential?
So terrorising some kids is fine as long as others are not terrorised????
One of my best friends had serious mental health issues in a toxic work environment. By your logic, why did he complain? Could it be that that firm actually helped so many people towards professional and financial success?? SHAME ON YOU!
But equally my experience is not wrong or untrue.
So what? No one is saying that every single child was terrorised. But that your child wasn't doesn't make it right that others were.
I expect you thought, similarly to us, that it would suit your child. And it didn't.
My child doesn't go there. I have explained why this topic is so sensitive to me
What gives you the right to change something which suits most other people; the majority? This is democracy. Why would you deny other people who want this, the right to have it?
We have laws in this democracy. Terrorising children is against our laws. We are not talking about a disagreement over whether the school should teach Latin or French
The rest of your response to my comments seems to be along the lines of "because I say this so it must be true".
No. I have substantiated every single thing I said.
And I called out the bullshit of those who don't substantiate their claims. Like the false dichotomy that there can be no alternative between anarchy and chaos vs batshit crazy.
I don't feel under any pressure to provide you with peer reviewed anythings.
You don't have to provide me with anything, but it is my right to call out the bullshit of those who hide behind alleged research and studies which do not exist.
The fact that you are so convinced that you are so correct about your position that you can disregard so many other viewpoints makes you only qualified to stand for yourself. And I am sorry for this.
I dismiss the bullshit of those who cannot substantiate their claims.
Again, claiming that these draconian methods are necessary is unsubstantiated bullshit.