mbell, that is a good post; thank you. It may be that I came from a home and school environment where I was at a fee paying school and exams were important etc and my parents had been to state grammars so perhaps some of the homework requirements (which are not really that much at NLCS) seem a lot compared with others who did not have that themselves as a child. I don't know. We found a box we hid as a family in the 1970s when our parents extended our house when the new owners after our parents died opened it up and my description of myself aged about 11 was a list of all my exam passed from music to speech a drama gym on and on and on... I am laughing at myself here.
Certainly our experience from age 7 to 18 with my daughter was there were some girls in each class who had to be best of the best and were perfectionists. You will find that in every school in the land. There would also in other case be some parents pressurising a child, as you get everywhere, telling them off for getting A not A star, and some more laid back (which is probably us although we certainly made sure homework and music practice was done and drove them to sports and went to parents' evenings etc). Some girls are so bright they don't have to do much work at all. Others as teenagers in every school at times go off the rails, out late, not working enough lazy as sin... Just a mixture.
I am sorry you have heard over and over again from other parents their daughters have not been happy. My daughter obviously had lots of happy friends there (and probably a few who weren't). It is certainly not easy being a teenage girl wherever you are. I though the emphasis on hobbies and the rounded girl was just right and so many nice hobbies from which to choose that most girls could find that one thing they adored. Plenty make friends for life.
Anyway I have no skin in this game now as it is my grandchildren who are starting school now and my youngest children are just finishing university stage. Miss Buss and Miss Beale I hope, if they are looking down on us, will continue to be proud of the school they founded. I re-read last year a trilogy by Molly Hughes who wrote about her Victorian childhood and later life and describes her starting at NLCS in the 1800s. It was also fascinating to see the life of a child in Victorian England including in London and also even the visits by train to see the family in Cornwall. Very interesting triology
www.amazon.co.uk/VICTORIAN-FAMILY-1870-1900-Molly-Hughes/dp/B000XS8NUS/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3ACQ09EPK5C66&keywords=molly+hughes&qid=1672581485&sprefix=molly+hughes%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1