Suspended from school

[sassym69]

My daughter has been escorted publically and humiliatingly from school and suspended as a photo shared on her private group (snapchat) has been copied by someone and passed to the head. The photo is an innocent pic of her teacher at the board, thats it ! Granted she shouldnt be using her phone, she was ordered to leave school immediately and not given any real explanations. She was treated with complete disrepect in front of fellow pupils too and made to feel like a criminal. Any school governors out there that can offer advice as I am sure there should be a proceedure on this where they should actually speak to the child first ?

[BoneyBackJefferson]

And, kind of maybe have reassurances that she wont be completely excluded.

I really hope that she does.

Frankly it would be nice if the school backed the teacher on this.

But I suspect that as it sounds like a sixth form she will probably get back in with a slapped wrist and be able to spin it that she is the victim.

Hopefully it will be a college and the teacher will be able to refuse to teach her.

[starrynight19]

sassym69 I think this is one your daughter is going to have to suck up and learn from. My guess is she is being made an example of. Regardless of how they have chosen to do this hopefully she will take on board how serious misuse of social media can be and learn from it. I really wouldn’t get into an argument with school about their dealings with it. They have protected the innocent person in this , the teacher. Presumably inline with their social media policy.

[converseandjeans]

I think she needs to write an apology letter & be really clear it was an error of judgement etc. I wouldn't bring up that you're unhappy about her being challenged in public.

[poseysbobblehat]

Why did she take the picture ?

[HeddaGarbled]

Private photos

In the middle of a class, while the teacher is teaching 😮

Unbelievable entitled attitude.

[Teachermaths]

Can you imagine the reverse "teacher took a photo of my child and shared it on Snapchat". The teacher would be sacked straight away.

We don't know what the school will do, they can make an informed decision with the full facts.

I wouldn't go complaining about your Dds treatment!

[Bluerussian]

Oh sassy I am sorry to read this. I can see you have done all the right disciplinary things however I agree your daughter should not have been publicly humiliated, she should have been taken to one side. After all, nobody has died, it's hardly a hanging offence.

You'll all get through this though - kids are stupid sometimes aren't they? How old is your daughter?

Get her to put an apology in writing saying she knows it was wrong but really meant no harm, she'll be forgiven. In your place I'd have private words about her public humiliation.

for you.

[AWafferthinmint]

No, I'm sorry but she got what she deserved. If it was the other way around and a teacher took a picture of your daughter and shared it to a group chat, would you be complaining if they were humiliated as they were escorted off the premises? I can guarantee you wouldn't. You would Be bay by for blood. The fact you are even trying to defend her speaks volumes and explains why she thought it was acceptable.

[AWafferthinmint]

*be baying for blood, that should say.

[blue25]

Really OP? So was your daughter thinking about the teacher’s dignity and privacy when she took the picture? Your child deserves all she gets.

[kitk]

School governor here. If you want to complain I'd read the school policies on mobile phone use, social media, exclusion and complaints as a minimum. Don't bother writing to govs until you've done so. I'd be mortified if my DD had behaved like this tho and def not inclined to draw more attention by pursuing

[slipperywhensparticus]

It does seem like overkill teacher was teaching not on the toilet what else has she done and the student who shared the snap has been disciplined in the same manner?

[AnnaFiveTowns]

As a teacher I would be really pissed off if a pupil took a photo of me and put it on social media; it would feel like violation of sorts; it's really not acceptable. The school have to crack down on this, even if it may seem a bit heavy handed.

[NerrSnerr]

Why did she share the photo? Was there some kind of caption with a comment about the teacher?

[m0therofdragons]

So, will she do it again? Nope. Lesson learned and no one died.

[sassym69]

nope no comments

[mynameisigglepiggle]

I think your daughter has learnt a very hard lesson about "private" photos
Once you share a photo on social media or with anyone it's no longer private. As she has found out you no longer have control over that photo and it can be screen shot and re shared in ways she never intended.

Yes she has possibly been made an example of but it was a pretty silly thing to do.
I doubt the school will permanently exclude if she apologises and shows she's learnt from the experience

[sassym69]

And as fabulous and sparkly as all you parents out there are and the ones that are A1 parents who are quite obviously perfection personified at being parents yourselves as your children obvs do no wrong - thank you for all your comments, helpful and snide. I am not an A1 parent unfortunately and FYI, my children do do wrong as any other child does and no I dont agree with it all but lets face it are you that perfect and is your child ?? Thank you :)

[JKScot4]

“She was treated with complete disrepect”
Jesus, that parent 🤣🤣

[doritosdip]

Nobody is saying that they are perfect.

They are saying that your dd deserves to be punished and should know that online stuff is never truly private.

If another student took innocent pics of your dd mid class how would you feel? Wouldn't you want them punished and think that she has a right to concentrate without worrying about being photographed? This is how the teacher feels. An innocent pic in class can be turned into a photoshopped image of something nefarious.

[doritosdip]

not given any real explanations

If you know that this is about the pic she took surely she knows too?

[lazylinguist]

I can't see what the school has done wrong here. What do you think they did that was unreasonable? They treated your daughter like someone who has deliberately broken the rules, because that's what she did. They escorted her out because she was being excluded for a serious breach of school policy.

Schools quite rightly take it very seriously when someone films or photographs someone without their consent. Because any idiot knows that those photos/videos are likely to be used maliciously, even if not by the person who originally took them. The school is right to make an example of your daughter and of whoever shared the photo.

[HappyHammy]

The photo can easily be shared and the teacher publicly humiliated.

[PenelopeFlintstone]

It sounds way over the top to me. The only thing I’d wonder is whether there was any rude comment added to the innocent looking photo. Have you seen the screenshotted Snap, OP?

[poseysbobblehat]

I'll ask again, why did she take it ?