'Hands Off' GCSE Mothers

[AlwaysHungryAlwaysTired]

DS1 is taking GCSEs this summer and, while reading mumsnet posts and worrying internally that he is not doing what everyone else's DCs seems to be doing in terms of revision, extra-curricular activities and all round brilliance/dedication, I am more or less completely leaving him to get on with it himself. Which, at the moment, means he doesn't seem to be doing anything much study-wise outside of school hours.

Please tell me there are others out there doing the same? I can't take any more hearing that children have been revising for two hours a night since December!! Overall I trust that DS1 will be ok doing it alone, but have moments of doubt frequently that I am not involved enough. How do we know how much is the right amount to parent in these years when they are becoming adults?!

And how come DH never seems to worry about any of this?!

[pointythings]

Maisy I have vivid memories of taking DD1 to archery with us (she wasn't shooting at that point as recovering from shoulder injury, but was there for outdoorsy socialising). And oh boy did we learn a lot about Macbeth, photosynthesis and public health in Victorian times... You can take the girls out of the revision, but apparently you can't take the revision out of the girl.

She says she found it beneficial though.

DD2 is much more a type 2.

[SoundofSilence]

TheDonald yes! That description is so very us.

[Orangettes]

I see myself as a facilitator - buy stuff that's needed, get tutors if they are requested, help keep distractions to a minimum, but ultimately I have tried to get the dcs to understand they are doing this for their future, it is not something for me....and generally they seem to get on with it, I have not enquired about timetables or felt the need to and for that I am grateful, they are GCSE grade 6/7 kids.