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Can my boyfriend move into my housing association house with me?

50 replies

User2676 · 16/05/2025 01:03

Just wondering if this is allowed? I live with my son and I am the tenancy holder.
Would I have to tell the Housing Association if my partner moves in with me? Do they need to know someone else is living here? Has anyone had their partner move in (if they are in a council or HA house) and if so, did you need to inform them?

OP posts:
ItWasntMyFault · 16/05/2025 10:20

PorkyMcChubbington · 16/05/2025 07:38

Don't you have to pay more rent when there's another working adult?
That's how it works where I am.

No. The rent charged is for the property, not the amount of people in it - it might affect how much the OP pays though depending on whether or not she claims UC.

MyKingdomForACat · 16/05/2025 10:26

THisbackwithavengeance · 16/05/2025 05:41

I wouldn’t let him move in. You’ll lose your benefits.

Same old misinformed, outdated shit

MrsMoastyToasty · 16/05/2025 10:29

One benefit you would definitely lose is the 25% single adult discount on your council tax.

justmeandmyselfandi · 16/05/2025 10:31
  1. How old is your child?
  2. How long have you known him?
  3. Does he have any other children?
  4. Does he have his own home and a good job?

A few questions for you to consider before even contemplating this. Please use contraception! He might be using you for a sweet deal.

EleanorReally · 16/05/2025 10:32

keep the tenancy in your n ame
no need to inform anyone

DurinsBane · 16/05/2025 10:40

THisbackwithavengeance · 16/05/2025 05:41

I wouldn’t let him move in. You’ll lose your benefits.

She might not be on benefits

PorkyMcChubbington · 16/05/2025 10:43

ItWasntMyFault · 16/05/2025 10:20

No. The rent charged is for the property, not the amount of people in it - it might affect how much the OP pays though depending on whether or not she claims UC.

Interesting. Ours is a percentage of the main/higher earner's income plus an added amount for each working adult residing there (subject to a minimum and maximum total rent).

category12 · 16/05/2025 10:55

PorkyMcChubbington · 16/05/2025 10:43

Interesting. Ours is a percentage of the main/higher earner's income plus an added amount for each working adult residing there (subject to a minimum and maximum total rent).

Oh, never heard of that.

ARichtGoodDram · 16/05/2025 12:14

Interesting. Ours is a percentage of the main/higher earner's income plus an added amount for each working adult residing there (subject to a minimum and maximum total rent).

Never heard of that. That's a very bizarre way of working out rent.

PorkyMcChubbington · 16/05/2025 12:19

ARichtGoodDram · 16/05/2025 12:14

Interesting. Ours is a percentage of the main/higher earner's income plus an added amount for each working adult residing there (subject to a minimum and maximum total rent).

Never heard of that. That's a very bizarre way of working out rent.

How is it? It's fair. Your rent is dependent on the earnings of the household. People who earn more money pay more rent. It's much fairer.

Motherofalittledragon · 16/05/2025 12:29

THisbackwithavengeance · 16/05/2025 05:41

I wouldn’t let him move in. You’ll lose your benefits.

That’s quite an assumption

DoNoTakeNo · 16/05/2025 12:31

Well if you want to continue the relationship as a long term couple,
this is one of the hurdles you’ll come across - if he moves in and contributes to the household finances, you may not be entitled to any means tested benefits nor to the HA property. Sorry!

sashh · 16/05/2025 12:42

It depends on your tenancy agreement OP no one on here can tell you.

My tenancy allows me to 'sub let' a room without informing them. Obviously I can't completely sub let (and I wouldn't want to) I have to live here but I can have a lodger on in my case a carer.

Frostiesflakes · 16/05/2025 12:44

User2676 · 16/05/2025 08:30

Thanks, looks like a lot of mixed information. I'm not sure whether to say anything or not. It does say in my contract that I can't sub-let my home out, is that not the same as him moving in?

Just don’t put him on the tenancy so that your home is secure
most HA /councils won’t let a person be put on the tennancy until they can prove they have been living there did a year so bank statments / electrol roll

personally I wouldn’t put him on the tenancy as it could cause you all sort of problems if you were to split as you both have equal rights to stay in the property

PruthePrune · 16/05/2025 13:38

@WildflowerConstellations

I said "might", that's why I said for the OP to seek advice.

newyearsresolurion · 16/05/2025 14:29

Mhhh why does he want to move in????

Pickingdates · 16/05/2025 14:36

Do not put him on the tenancy EVER.
So many women bitterly regret it.

Why are you moving him in?
Is he stuck?
Bad reason if he is.

Sub letting is you moving out temporarily and receiving rent from another person who lives there.

GraceUnderPresure · 16/05/2025 14:40

Read your contract, if it doesn't state you have to notify them it'll be fine. Will you want his name on the lease? You'd have to tell them then obviously.

User2676 · 16/05/2025 16:17

I've read my contract, it doesn't mention anything about allowing anyone to move in so there's no information on it. It does say I need permission for a lodger for to sub let. I wouldn't be putting him on the tenancy, myself and my son are named on the tenancy

OP posts:
DorothyStorm · 16/05/2025 17:46

justmeandmyselfandi · 16/05/2025 10:31

  1. How old is your child?
  2. How long have you known him?
  3. Does he have any other children?
  4. Does he have his own home and a good job?

A few questions for you to consider before even contemplating this. Please use contraception! He might be using you for a sweet deal.

All of this. What is his current living situation and how long have you been together?

Cork20 · 16/07/2025 04:56

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Frostiesflakes · 16/07/2025 08:20

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I would imagine you can
HA don’t rent assess you
but I would be wary of adding him to your tenancy

if you ever split then you will have to hope he is nice enough to come of the tenancy
basically your giving him equal rights to live in the house you can’t throw him out or ask him to leave once he is on the tennancy

generally you can only assign your tennancy once
so if you do this you probably won’t be able to add your kids / anyone else in the future because

DancingLions · 16/07/2025 11:07

He can move in without you telling anyone, it's not subletting. But as others have said, think about this carefully. Once he's lived there a year he's classed as a resident, no matter what it says on the tenancy. Presumably he'd be contributing to rent and would be able to prove that. When it comes to succession rights, it goes to a partner first. An adult child can only take over the tenancy if there's no partner. If you know 100% that your son will never need your tenancy, then it may be ok. But you have to be sure of that as you're basically giving away his right to take it over by moving a partner in.

crowsfeet57 · 22/12/2025 18:58

PruthePrune · 16/05/2025 01:31

Became full because if you do inform them he might have to go on the tenancy and that could cause all sorts if problems if it doesn't work out. Perhaps seek advice before moving him in.

He won't be added as a tenant, just a household member. He will have no rights.

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