I can't decide if I'm being unreasonable here but mine and DH's relationship hasn't been great recently so I'm feeling generally a bit glum about most things.
I earn ok and take home £3k a month after tax. Our joint regular direct debits (rent, council tax, utilities and routine childcare come to just shy of £2500). I tend to pay everything as soon as I get paid and then DH puts money in the joint account later in the month.
He earns between £1600 and £1750 a month but repeatedly tells me all he can afford to contribute is £600 which is basically half the rent, nothing else towards any other bills, childcare, food etc etc. I know he pays half of the car and his credit cards but even still I assume he is left with about £800 each month.
With the money I have "left over" I buy all the food for 5x people and dog, any additional childcare needed for school holidays which is often £££, all kids clothes, all presents for kids parties, fuel etc etc. I am nearly always left completely broke and it's really getting me down.
I have repeatedly asked him to contribute more but am simply met with his response is that £600 is that "all he can afford".
Am I being unreasonable? Is his contribution in line with his earnings? Am I being unfair?
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AIBU about finances
Slothmonkey · 09/04/2024 22:05
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Angeldelight50 · 09/04/2024 22:19
You are earning 60% of the household income and paying around 60% of the household bills, I think that is fair.
If you’re unwilling to pool finances all you can do is tell DH he needs to stump up for his share of food/childcare etc.
Tbh if I think if the roles were reversed and your DH was the higher earner refusing to pool finances, posters would scream he was BU.
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