If you have friends who do not mostly only talk about men/dating/kids!! Where did you find these people?

[IsThereAnEchoInHere]

Please help!

I’m a woman, in my 30’s and I really need to find new friends.
So if tou have friends (women) who’s life don’t revolve around men/kids, where did you find them?

Thepeopleversuswork

Partners and kids is an example of common ground, as is talking about the weather or popular TV shows.

I, and I suspect many others, would not start a conversation with someone I do not know well on (for eg) politics.

I asked OP if she had a partner or kids because if she doesn’t then the common ground of family is not one they can access.

My friends mostly talk about running 😆 but among my running friends there are some interested in current affairs, the environment, history.

I am going to say though, that for my favourite pass time of all, the slightly tipsy putting the world to rights conversation, men are much better than women.

Lesbians.

Lesbians without horses.

I think there is plenty of people in their 30s who are single and childless, or simply don't talk "relationships" (partners get mentioned as part of their lives of course, but that's kind of normal - so do their cats)

In fact, I would like to know more people who have children and would talk about them

My best friends are mostly people I met at university or at a feminist group I joined in my early 20s. The group is no more but I'm still friends with several of the people I met and have met new friends through the people I befriended to begin with. My oldest friend that I'm still in touch with is someone I met as a teenager through a common interest, we weren't at the same school but had mutual friends through the interest and stayed in touch - helped by the fact that we both had a gap year and then went to the same university. This friend has a very interesting career and is generally super easy to chat to about most things. She is single and doesn't have kids, so I don't talk endlessly about my kids with her, but we do talk about relationships a bit.

Since having children I've met people through baby/toddler groups and then through school, but the people I've gravitated towards are people who don't JUST talk about kids, although that is obviously an easy common ground.

I do think it's tricky if you weren't lucky enough to meet and stay in touch with like-minded people in your teens and twenties... once people have careers and other commitments (long term partners, children, maybe caring for older relatives) it is harder. But surely the best way is to spend time doing things you enjoy - hopefully you'll meet like minded people but at least you'll enjoy yourself while you're at it!

I think often in early friendships these are easy things and also a good way to figure out if you are compatible.

A friend came over with her dc for drinks and dinner the other day. We talked about work, her planned trip away, a charity activity she has started doing, my recent holiday, our dogs, health, fashion ... and our partners and dc. Was a fabulous evening.