I don't understand how anyone is actually happy with mundane daily life. I am married, no major problems with DH, just normal bickering. I have a child, lovely and kind but hard work. Have a career which challenges me and allows me to progress. Good relationship with family and friends but I just feel so blah. Every day feels the same, wake up, parent, work, random household duties (split between myself and DH), more parenting, probably bicker with DH, stress at dc for not listening, go to bed and do it all again. I'm bored and exhausted; seems so long ago that I felt really happy but cant identify what is making me feel this way other than boredom. I don't have hobbies or see people as much as I'd like because I'm tired all the time, especially in winter.
Do other people feel this way or is everyone else elated living the daily grind she having so much fun simply watching crap tv with partner / family?
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everydayisthesame · 18/12/2022 22:03
ChristmasSparkleTastic · 18/12/2022 22:24
Totally hear you op. It's a bit like groundhog day sometimes.
Opentooffers · 18/12/2022 22:36
Find your thing. With me it's music, so going to gigs when I get the chance. DS grown up now, but I still went to gigs while a full time working single parent. You have to have some personal time to look forward to in life. Maybe a book club is more your thing? Find something for you, that you like, that you can do with others. Reading is solitary, but a book club is social.
Blackeyesbluetears · 18/12/2022 22:41
Op. My ds is nearly six and has just been diagnosed with autism. I think it's worth seeking support in autism parent Facebook groups.
Parenting an asd child lends itself to unique challenges and considerations.
I wouldn't say I'm happy. But I'm fairly content with things. I enjoy life. Me and dh. make sure we prioritise meaningful breaks away fom the children that really helps
Cuppasoupmonster · 18/12/2022 22:50
I don’t think happiness is a permanent state, and is quite a high bar to feel most of the time.
My mum cares for elderly people and asked one man the secret to living to 100, he said he’s never strived for happiness but just settles for being content - I think there’s a lot in that.
Life with small kids is Groundhog Day, but I try to do things to make it nicer - I cook nice meals, tidy away the toys and things at the end of every day so I have a clear house to wake up to, buy nice bubble bath so I can have a soak every few days (I do shower in between lol).
Figgypudding123 · 18/12/2022 22:53
OP, how old are you? Could you be perimenopausal by any chance?
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