How do you work on your self worth?

[MrsCoyote]

Work on your self worth first - this is often said here when OP has troubles with men, dating, boundaries in general.
But HOW exactly do you do that?

Try the book by John Niland. Self worth safari

Sometimes you just need to detach yourself from certain people, especially if they are the sort who need to knock you down so they can feel good about themselves.

Great idea

In a therapy session for something completely unrelated, it came out that I felt shit about myself because of certain anxieties I felt/fears. These things were impacting my self worth. I then focussed on those and actually it's made me such a happier person. I had to be someone I liked, and like it or not, I didn't like myself as a person. Now I do!

I second the Stoic philosophy. Game changer. There’s a lot of introductory vids on YouTube cos picking up Marcus Aurelius or Seneca can be intimidating.

Counselling. As a pp said, often the roots are in childhood and a second pair of trained eyes can help you see and break unhelpful patterns.

After going NC with a toxic relative, I realised my issue was I never thought about what I actually wanted, just what would fit around their demands. Had no idea what I liked, was indifferent to most things, couldn’t form opinions and make decisions because they would invariably be wrong. While this was an abuse situation, I think elements of this are quite common in women, as we are sidelined and made to accommodate others. So if this is an issue for you, think about what you want, what you like, what you don’t like, and think what boundaries (on yourself) will help you have more of that. Things like ‘I don’t like being interrupted, so if someone does that repeatedly when I’ve asked them not to, I’ll leave the interaction’

its easier to do all the above in an uncluttered space, try minimalism/discarding excess stuff. You can see more clearly what your priorities are & it’s therapeutic as it makes you confront your past.

good luck!