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Question re. UC, getting married but not living together

29 replies

quicknamechange111111 · 15/04/2021 23:27

So some people might wonder why I would want to get married but not live together however I am now used to my own space and don't want to live with my partner (or any partner) full time. At least not until my children have grown up and left the house.

But I would really like to get married. Can anyone tell me how this affects Universal Credit if you did this? Obviously there are 2 houses to pay for, he is working and I am studying. I will likely need some support from UC for the next 3 years until I am fully qualified.

Would we have to make a joint claim if we were married but living separately?

Marriage is important to me but living together is not. I know that may some strange but it's how I feel. There was a thread recently touching on the subject and I'm sure at least one person said they were married but living separately.

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Lovingtruthhealing · 14/06/2023 14:48

People are very quick to judge others and their motives...it is sad really as I reckon most of us are trying the best we can in these lives.
I need to live separately from my partner as we both have PTSD and need our own 'safe' space. We can't share a bed to sleep either due to trauma issues for both of us...yet we are considering marriage as the love between us is extremely deep as is our intention to help each other heal.
I think the original poster was asking for information...not a moral compass or judgement. We can never truly know another's path/experiences/circumstances well enough to judge them...though often if we feel upset or angry at our own circumstances we do judge or resent others.
I hope the original poster found the answers she needed...best wishes to her...and to all of us. I don't think anyone gets an 'easy' earth life. 💜

Dollymollykerry · 26/06/2023 00:43

Hi. So i want to get married, my bf lives a few doors down. He bought the house as close to my parents because of my health and not being able to live with him. I stay some nights. Im on esa. We will be doing exactly what we do now. Not living together 24/7 but staying few nights aweek. Would i still be able to claim esa? He works more than 24 hours a week. Thanks x

Kardelen · 08/01/2024 15:31

LilBerry · 20/02/2023 11:21

Hi. Just to add for anyone else looking, I spoke to Citizens Advice about this and they were very clear that you would only need to make a joint claim if you live together. You can be married but living seperately and still make single claims.

Hiya, so does this mean If I am married but live separately I can make a single claim? Do you know how I can contact citizens advice?

Lougle · 08/01/2024 16:31

Kardelen · 08/01/2024 15:31

Hiya, so does this mean If I am married but live separately I can make a single claim? Do you know how I can contact citizens advice?

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Yes, as long as you can show that your relationship has broken down and they don't contribute to your day to day life as a partner would, and don't contribute to your finances (with the exception of child maintenance).

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