I see the point about many women being unwilling to perform traditional male roles.
But I also see a great number of men who consider themselves very modern and equal because they are doing the merely physical part of traditional women's work, like sewing on buttons and ironing, but somehow don't seem to notice that their wives are still performing a massive job of emotional caretaking that has also traditionally been part of the woman's role.
Men, if you are the go-to parent for your teen's broken heart, or their worries about the mental health of a friend, or their fears that their stomach pain might be something more than normal indigestion- then good on you, you have done your job well! But if you are not the parent they would normally go to with their unhappiness, then that probably represents hours and hours of work put in by your wives or female partners without you even noticing.
My dad was considered an enormously modern man by the standards of my childhood because he changed nappies and cooked dinner on a regular basis. But I have never been able to tell him that my own dd has serious MH issues and has frequently been suicidal. The fact that I can tell my mother is the direct result of hours and hours that she has put in on listening to me, talking to me, signalling that she is available and that there is nothing so unbearable that she is not prepared to hear it for my sake. Add to that the fact that she has performed the same job for my 3 brothers and for my father and for her father at the end of his life, and you will hopefully see that in terms of hours this stacks up rather more than a bit of dusting and hoovering. My dad otoh, a most kindly and loving man, told her on their honeymoon that she must never expect him to talk about emotions because he can't do that. Heaven knows how many hours of draining and exhausting work that has saved him!
My own dh again is brilliant with doing housework, probably does more than me and earns more money than I do (though we work equal hours). But I am the one who knows when dd is beginning to feel bad again, I am the one who knows which one of her friends is having a difficult time at uni, or which one is struggling with her sexuality. I am the one who knows exactly what tone to strike to make dd feel brave and positive, to encourage dh after a trying day at work, or make ds feel he can pass his exams. It's not something my family have elected me for because they all believe it's women's work. It is work I do because I am the one who notices when it needs doing. It means constant watching other people to gauge their emotional needs. It's draining.
Compared to that, the paid job I do is a piece of cake. I suspect that may be why so many of the successful women in my field are single.