We have been married for over a decade and he has never sent me flowers to my work or given me flowers full stop really.
We have had a horrible 2 years - read - me finding an EA and then me trying to recover from it and us getting back on track.
For the last year we are ok and both getting on with it, I refused to do the pick me dance and things haven't been easy but we are talking now things have been normal, every day for ages now.
I work in a largely male environment, have for 2 years. I receive the odd thank you gift from team members and clients here and there, nothing special.
Today a huge bunch of flowers arrives, they were in a glass vase and everything, really lovely. They had my name on them as the recipient but the card was blank, ie I had no idea who they were from and I don't help people who can afford thank you gifts this size.
I called the flower company (it's a company we use and they know me) they told me the card was left blank to keep me guessing"
I called my DH twice with no answer and text him "did you send me flowers??" I didn't think for one moment that it was him, he never shows me any emotion.
The keep you guessing comment creeped me out tbh and after a chat at work about not knowing who had sent me a gorgeous vase of flowers I decided to leave them at work because tbh I didn't know who had sent them and why not leave a message.
I'm not the type of women people send lovely flowers to.
DH eventually replied after I had left the flowers at work and they were from him.
He is pissed I left them at work
I'm bemused at the non message
Apparently he asked his PA to order them and didn't want to realay a message of love to her but expected she would add his name.
I ant believe I'm being moaned at for not bringing them home with a blank card. Wwyd?
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My reaction to flowers from Dh to my work. Am I wrong?
DragonsCanHop · 08/05/2015 23:26
This just reminds me of having to overexplain every normal interaction I ever had to my ex, who was convinced none of it was innoccuous. It's exhausting. You can't prove a negative and that's what set him off. But it was pure insecurity, lack of trust, and the fact that he cheated so he expected that I would too (somehow it was supposed to be the worst thing ever if I did, but he was fine 
)
I'm a little 
at "not worth the effort" - kinda sucks all the romance out of it, doesn't it.
That said, OP, I think you're getting a bit of a hard time. It's too easy to project our own issues onto your situation. You've been very clear that the EA is in the past, and you sound like you know yourself - we should respect that.
I think you need to make lemonade. Further comments along the lines of "well, of course this didn't go smoothly: I wasn't used to being bought flowers by you like, ever, in our entire relationship , and you weren't used to buying them like, ever in our entire relationship . I'm CERTAIN we'll get it right next time, which will be VERY SOON ..." will probably do the trick.
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I'm astounded at the some of the replies!!
Glad to hear you had a good weekend op.
Best of luck to you and your husband 
I think that there are a number of men posting on this thread, actually, who seem to share the OP's DH's reaction - who think that just because a man has bought a woman flowers she should be bloody grateful and fall at his knees in gratitude.
Look, blokes, it just doesn't work like that, OK?
The flowers are now 6 days old and are stunning' lots of lillies bursting to life.
We are back on track and both enjoying them.
I just wanted to add. We went through a really rough patch in our long time together but have managed to work it out. It's taken time, patience and tolerance as well as a lot of time looking at our own behaviours and thinking about each other.
I have learnt more about me as a person and what I want now plus what we both need to do for our marriage.
Things are stronger.
I just wanted to add the above for those that may be reading and in a difficult place, it is hard but can be worked on with time and honest from both sides.
Hope that doesn't sound to patronising 
No worries Octo my passed was used to those. Feelings. Not now though
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