I started a thread in AIBU recently about my mum and her drinking and how it's starting to impact on all our lives.
Basically she drinks every single day, never has a night off, well actually sometimes she does but it's only once in a blue moon. She can easily sink a bottle of wine, sometimes more in an evening. She will then pass out drunk on the sofa in front of the TV until my dad wakes her up and makes her go to bed.
When she goes out she's worse. She will drink and drink until she can hardly stand up, and has to be carried home. She become very loud, lairy and is sometimes verbally rude to family friends and even strangers. She frequently embarrass us whilst we're out and I know for a fact friends and family talk about her drinking behind her back, I've overheard them. Privately my dad tells me he is ashamed of her as well but he won't confront her about it because he knows what will happen, she is incredibly sensitive about the subject of her drinking and will go absolutely apeshit if anyone even makes a joke about it. It is a subject that is off limits as far as she is concerned.
I'm tired of it. I know in order to stop she has to want to, the excuse she usually gives is that she can't unwind without it in the evenings but that doesn't excuse the making and exhibition of herself at parties etc. I think she's got a drink dependency and is in denial about it.
She doesn't drink in the day, she's not one of those people who has a glass of whiskey with her breakfast, but once 7pm arrives it's wine o clock and it's time to open a bottle. To be honest I think the only reason she doesn't start earlier than that is because she still works and drives everywhere, I dread what will happen when she retires because on the weekends she starts mid afternoon.
A few months back I went out for a curry with my DB and his partner and we were talking about all the stupid things she'd done whilst under the influence over the years, he then looked at me in the eye and said "she's an alcoholic isn't she?". It was a relief to know that he's also picked up on it, but what do we do about it? I think if we all got together and confronted her she'd fucking explode at us, but we can't go on like this. It's always one of us who has to deal with the embarrassment when she gets herself into a state and insults people. Sober she wouldn't dream of being rude to someone, but pissed she's rude, obnoxious cow!
Please can someone advise me? I just don't know how to deal with this. I know that in order to stop she has to want to stop, and that would also mean admitting a problem and she's just not prepared to do that. She's not good with criticism anyway, and this might result in her disowning us all.
Help and advise on what to do here. would be very much appreciated