Hi everyone
I feel this could be a pretty long post so apologies in advance!
I have just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant with our second child. It was a complete accident and a shock but I was really pleased as I always wanted a second child at some point. My husband however, doesnt want it he says we cant afford it (we are in a huge amount of debt not disputing that) and he feels our life is stressful enough being both full time working parents. He also doubts himself as a father and says he doesnt think he could handle having another child. He is saying he doesnt think our marriage will last another 12 months if I go through with the pregnancy but, if I am forced into a termination, I probably wouldnt even give us that long. He wants to give our son everything we can rather than scrimp along with two children, which I understand but to me material things arent the priority here.
My husband has depression/issues but refuses to go on medication so is on the waiting list for therapy (CBT I think) so he is aware that he is being negative. The thing is when I told him I was pregnant last week his first reaction was to smile and tell me everything was going to be ok. Its like hes had a few days to overthink everything and has let the negative thinking take over. Ive tried to get on his wavelength but I just cant we are poles apart with this.
I really want this baby I am an only child myself and hubby has 1 sister but she disappeared years ago and hasnt spoken to anyone since. Therefore my son has no aunts, uncles or cousins and if I terminate this baby will not have a brother or sister either and that makes me really sad.
I feel that whatever I decide will put a huge strain on us as individuals and on our marriage either way one of us will be forced into something we dont want and I dont know what to do.
Has anyone else been through this or even if you havent but have some advice I would really appreciate it.
xx
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Pregnant with second child but husband doesn't want it... have no idea where to go with this!
Dorothy77 · 21/07/2014 15:02
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