I'm in my early 40's and separated. At first I was quite excited by the thought of meeting a normal, loving man and building a future together. Fastforward a couple of years down the line and a trail of failed relationships/dates and I'm becoming more and more disillusioned with men. It seems virtually impossible to meet someone who's not already taken, gay or mentally unstable. Is it the age ? Is is modern life ? Is it men being @rses ? Or all of the above ? It's hard being a single parent, doing everything alone. Friends are great of course but I'd love to meet someone special. I just feel too young to throw in the towel and begin imagining the rest of my life alone. Anyone feeling the same ?
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the lying about the age thing is a tightrope. I put in my real age but when I set up the profile I had no idea that so many men would lie about their age! I had it in my head that I'd date anybody from 4 years younger to 6 years older, so a decade wide range, not to restrictive. However I once nearly went on a date with a man who had subtracted a decade from his age! I found out luckily. Don't ask me how 
but I'm glad I did. When I politely cancelled the date and told him why he told me sarcastically that he was devastated not to learn all about my ''life''. He put life in inverted commas which I thought was funny. My life is my life. No lies. But the messy man I dated had subtracted 5 years from his age. The reason men do this is not because they're ashamed of their own age I don't think, but it is because they are frustrated that the women a decade younger consider them, well, a decade older. So women are sort of forced in to lying about their age so that they can date a man ''only'' five years older than they are! I'm not saying that men create ALL the problems on line, as I've had a laugh with a few guys and the stories they've told have been very funny. Mr Commitment phobe with the minimalist Danish style décor told me a date popped out to get fags and didn't return. We had a laugh at that, didn't John Lennon say that to cynthia. He should have known! I was laughing that there were bigger commitmentphobes out there than him and as bad as he was he kept meeting them. Another woman he was to date changed her mind at the last second but felt bad so she sent a friend!
If it doesn't work out with the guy I'm with now (who lied about his height but not his age {eye roll} ) then I guess I'll start a new profile and subtract 3 years from my age, ONLY so that men genuinely within a decade of my own age might respond to me or write to me. I don't want to pay a babysitter to leave the house to meet a man me Da could introduce me to at the Irish club! lol
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