The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The *Wine Witch* Into Touch, Because Enough Is Enough!

[Mouseface]

Hello, tis me, Mouse :)

This is a thread for those who are worried about their drinking habits towards alcohol, or/and drugs.

Even if you think that you are drinking more tonight than last night or this week than last, come and have a chat, find a seat, we don't bite!

We are a supportive Bus, full of very different posters, from various backgrounds. Some of us drink in moderation, allowing ourselves the odd glass or two as a treat, or just because we're in control of our drinking for that day.

One Day At A Time.

We have those who abstain completely, and those who wake every day to Day 1 and hope with all of their hearts that they can, and will, make it to Day 2.

If you've followed our journey to date, you'll know who most of us are by now :) and we kind of have two 'sayings', that sum up who we are -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
     
     
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia
     
     That said, we will not have any bashing of support groups, such as AA or Community Support Teams or even your own GP.
     
     This Bus is a place for honesty, sanctuary and safety, something that has taken four years for a number of very special, very lovely, very honest and caring Babes to establish.
     
     So, come find a seat, grab something warm from the supply cupboard at the back of the Bus as it's going to be cold tonight! Brrrr!
     
     And, if you'd like to read back over some of our history, HERE IS THE LAST THREAD
     
     And, HERE IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN
     
     We hope to meet you soon :) xxx

[Imdoingthis]

Hope you all had a Good Friday night

I feel like I really need to wake up, something needs to wake me up I was determined to stop drinking and playing games with him but I like it
I don't know what's wrong with me :(

[ThisIsMyTime]

Morning checking in on day 11 feeling great got family meal in a pub later hope I can do it don't want to spoil my AF November hope every one is ok be kind to yourself x

[Anneisnotmyname]

Day eleven, can't believe I'm into double figures. Tonight will be hard as i have nothing planned to do with the time. Soc I feel the same, domestic stuff is boring but what else is there? I've painted the bathroom, hall and stairways, changed some carpets and now have the walls to strip in the living room. I'm even wary of doing too much as I might reward myself with wine...

On a more positive note I'm loving going to bed sober and waking up after a decent sleep. Not feeling like I need another two hours in bed. I never realised how much just one glass of wine effected me until I had a few af days.

Wishing everyone a good Saturday but wondering where baby, pink, ladame are?

[beachestoexplore]

Well it another Saturday without a hangover. I am thankful for that. Although the debates are still rife in my head each day there truly is NEVER a morning that I regret not drinking. I am so glad to be less panicky and edgy when I wake.

I am a bit concerned about it coming between me and dh. He is not pressuring me to drink at all but I am finding myself wanting to persuade him not to. I think ultimately it is because it would make things easier for me. Trying to curb this though because I know I would have been mightily pissed off with him if he tried to tell me not to drink! It can be a struggle sat next to an open bottle of red though I can tell you.

We bought a wine kit yesterday, to make 23 litres in time for Christmas (I am not sure whether I will or won't) but as I hovered looking at the kits I found myself worrying about 'if it is ready too early maybe one kit won't be enough! perhaps two would be more sensible.' 23 litres makes 30 bottles. . It is not even made and i am worrying about it running out. This is not a normal attitude is it?

Still determined to continue, I have glimpses of a more stable self esteem and IS very attractive.

Sorry for self indulgent post, hope all of you are having a calm and enjoyable weekend. X

[beachestoexplore]

I meant a more stable self esteem does look very attractive.

Thanks for letting me waffle on babes. It feels good to have somewhere to 'think' out loud

[Imdoingthis]

I know no one gets me I'm sorry iv been drinking its how it is

[spanna41]

Hello all you lovely Babes
Day 6 for me today! still got weird metallic taste in my mouth?
Day 11 This and Annie that is REALLY good - well done ladies. I hope I'll be there soon
Haggis How's your DD feeling today? I hope she's getting better.
Soc you're doing really well x
Beaches you're getting through day by day, wine making sounds fun at least it takes time to make and could act as a distraction
Im hang in there babe try and drink a load of water before you sleep. 2 moro is another day x

Hope all you other babes have had a good Saturday

Soc it's prob Sunday for you - good morning x

Day 7 for me tomorrow - wow a whole week - can't even remember the last time...........

[beachestoexplore]

Why do you think no-one gets you Im? I can definitely relate to drinking because you like it (even if on other levels you know it is creating it's own kind of stress) and also going back to a relationship which has gone bad. There is always a comfort in the familiar and of course the excitement of feeling something.

Is there something that you want to hear? Do you know what you would like to happen?

[beachestoexplore]

Hi Spanna thanks and well done to you. The last time I had a metallic taste in my mouth I was pregnant (just a thought)

[KateSMumsnet]

Hello everyone,

We're just posting as we understand a few posters have concerns about how the two sobriety thread in Relationships, this thread and Dry thread, are going to co-exist.

We feel that Dry thread posters are entitled to talk about the BB thread in general terms - even to say why the BB thread is not for them - so long as they aren't being deliberately mean or hyper-critical. That said, posters have raised the point of not wanting other people to be put off from posting on BB, and we will post on the other thread to try to explain our POV and ask them to try to make sure that they're posting in a considerate way.

Ultimately we think both threads can be great sources of support and we'd really like them to live side-by-side in a mutually supportive way, so that's what we're trying to encourage

[beachestoexplore]

I hope both threads continue to co-exist. I think both have the potential to help people. I can see how the mention of drinking can be triggering to someone trying to stop, which I believe is one of the main reasons for a separate abstinence thread. I regularly lurk on the DRY thread and have found lots of interesting info which is helpful to me personally. That being said, I am comfortable here on the bus

[spanna41]

Beaches not a chance of pregnancy here. 46 with 2 DD (14 & 9) they're plenty to be getting on with, that and staying AF x

I hope both threads continue to exist, although I've not read the other thread, yet . I'm with Beaches and the other Babes on our cosy bus, currently snuggled under a blanket, hoping for a green opal fruit.

I may end up in the sidecar or on the roof rack, and if that happens I would like the opportunity to share my feelings and thoughts etc on this thread.

Long live both threads that's what I say

[Fairenuff]

I too hope both threads continue - they are both a great source of support, and I am pleased that HQ have asked everyone to be mindful of how their posts might affect others.

[spanna41]

Nuff how are you doing? x

[guggenheim]

Hi babes
I agree I'd like both threads to continue and I think it's just a polite reminder from HQ, which is fine. I nearly wrote 'polite reindeer'. Sigh.

I've had a rough couple of days mood wise just due to being mega busy & not eating properly at times. I asked a women at aa for some good ideas or helpful advice,but she didn't really listen to what I had asked. I am all right now but getting very fed up of mood swings. Still sober and going to stay so.

I shall just NC the last few posters - beaches who made me laugh with the litres of wine and I'm we are here for you wether we get you or not,hi to spanna and faire

BTW- oi isinde me and joey Soooooo could drive the bus. i'm a good driver,me. It's just that I have this really short attention span,inability to sit still and mood swings. Sounds alright,doesn't it?

[Fairenuff]

I am cold spanna >>> blue face

I am going to have a lovely, warming chicken hotpot which dh is just preparing and then sink into a bubble bath. After that, with pjs and fluffy bed socks on, I will be toasty

How about you?

[Fairenuff]

Hi guggs x posted

[spanna41]

Nuff I'm good. WW is whispering on and off. Also about to have a roast dinner at a friends. Away from home is good as I don't have to do anything and DDs being lovely as they'e with their Godparents (2 of my best mates) so all in all we're having a lovely time. I would usually drink with these mates, the later it's getting the WW is getting more persistent - urghh!
Anyway onward and upward, still under the blanket. Enjoy your chickenpot, sounds yummy.
Guggs you're doing really well keep going. Moods are a bugger. Try and eat to keep your strength up for your busy days have a good evening x

[guggenheim]

'Lo there you two

Yes, I never had mood swings when I was drinking,because the booze suppressed my feelings. Now I'm like a flipping 13 yr old.

mmm blanket sounds nice...

i have done 1 very positive thing- I've got off my fat arse and have been out for a few runs. I did week 3 of c25k this am.
I am going to be bloody serene one day even if it kills me.
But I don't regret being sober and at least all my feeling are my own,if that makes sense.

[aliasjoey]

I disappear for a few days, and when I get back someone's eaten all the Opal Fruits and nicked my triangle

Yes I've been drinking too often although at least I've managed to cut down. I think my new rule of not drinking at my in-laws has been so successful that it has taken some pressure off - and now I feel like I am 'allowed' to drink at other times.

I need to start introducing more rules, as staying sober at in-laws is no longer such a challenge.

[Anneisnotmyname]

Bloody h hasgone and bought a bottle of wine home. My annoyance is twofold; we agreed not to drink to save money for Xmas and I now feel tempted. I don't intend to be af for ever but I want to be for now.

[Fairenuff]

joey isn't it great how that is no longer a challenge. I know this was something you really wanted to achieve and you're done it! So, what's the next goal?

Annie I would have found it really hard to resist if dh had brought wine home when I was struggling. Does he want to drink today or could you get him to pour it into a plastic container and freeze it?

[Anneisnotmyname]

Faire he's opened it now and is drinking it. At the moment I'm more annoyed that he's putting nothing into the house - last week I found he'd taken my card to pay some of his bills- but he's gone and wasted money on none essentials. I know ultimately if I'm to drink on my terms I have to get used to being around wine without automatically diving in.

[SunshineSuperNova]

Hello babes, back again, day one again. I'm struggling. DH is on naltrexone and learning to 'moderate' his drinking. So he brings alcohol into the house and I find it hard to say no. My drinking worries me.

[Fairenuff]

When I first started stopping (you know what I mean), my dh agreed to only have beer or whisky in the house because I won't drink either of them. I would have found it very difficult if there was wine.