Firstly, apologies for the long message!
I?ve been dating with my boyfriend for two months. The first date was in a fairly expensive restaurant (he invited me out and booked the table). Despite the fact that the venue was my choice I was actually expecting to stay in the bar area as I?m struggling financially. He ordered a drink, one of the mains (£18), I ordered a starter only (£6.50) and we shared a bottle of wine of which he had more than half. At the end of the evening he asked what we should do with the bill. I offered - just to be polite - that we split it in half; however I was expecting him to pay a bit more as he had the lion?s share. But he gladly agreed and I ended up paying half of the £52 bill. Fair enough, he paid for the wine at a pub the following weekend (£10), so I thought it was actually fine. Only recently I have started thinking about the old saying ?mean with money, mean with love??Maybe I have watched too many Hollywood romcoms, but shouldn?t it be the case of a man making an effort when he?s dating a woman?!
We spend around 3 days/evenings a week together and he always stays at mine. I do the grocery shopping, spend time cooking and generally put quite a lot of effort into pleasing him. We have gone out for breakfast twice (local caff the first time and a bit more upmarket café the second time) and he has paid for it, but on both occasions he kept on complaining how expensive it is to eat out. We once went grocery shopping together for which he paid (£12). He has also paid for a takeaway twice: pizza and Chinese. When I go shopping I always try to buy healthy nutritious food, because this is what I am used to and I genuinely love cooking. I usually make my meals from scratch: casseroles and stews, steak and salad, roast chicken and potatoes, soups. I don?t eat crisps or £1 frozen pies. Yes, I sometimes have a cheeky takeaway pizza and chips, but it doesn?t happen often.
He never brings any food or anything else with him, except for the last weekend when he decided to bring some of his own items, after saying that ?you never have any food at home?. So he brought a pack of frozen waffles, a frozen pie (the kind of products you can get from Iceland for £1) and a tin of baked beans. However, in the evening after realising my food was so much better (chicken fajitas and green salad), he decided not to eat his but indulge in mine. I don?t always have the items in the fridge that he would like (for full English), but I have always made him coffee & toast, omelette or a bacon sandwich. Except for the two breakfasts mentioned earlier and a couple of times when he has woken up before me and gone to eat in a local caff. So I think it is unfair to say that I never have any food at home. What about all the dinners I have prepared for him?
As a side note, I am a secretary on a 23k salary (plus stuck in a dead end job) and he is a financial analyst in the City. Not sure how much he is earning, but perhaps around 50-60k?!
I feel that he is not making much effort and is generally a tight person. Am I unfair?
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Is my boyfriend tight?
pippilongstockinglondon · 10/12/2012 12:39
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He asks you to wash his clothes? After eight weeks??? 
Bin.Him.Now.
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You're accusing pippi of being 'shockingly money focused' with a name like yours, Scrimper? 
If a well-heeled beloved turned up with offerings from Iceland I'd not ony remember every meal I'd lovingly cooked for them, I'd also be counting every ice cube/tea bag they'd consumed in beverages.
This one sounds tighter than the proverbial gnat's arse, pippi, and I'd dump him for the frozen waffles alone as your culinary skills are obviously wasted on his non tastebuds.
Book a table for 2 in a fine dining establishment, eat lightly on the day so that you can do justice to 5 or more courses the meal, be sure to savour a selection of the most expensive wines, leave your purse at home, and give him the boot after you've left the restaurant or the following morning (if you fancy a little something by way of an extra dessert with your usual nightcap).
In view of his profession you'll have opportunity to use the immortal words 'analyze this' as you kiss him off 
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