so low is husband having affair ??

[katty19]

sorry to botheryou guys im after some advice as i dont have anyone to talk to. Basically i woke up one morning to find a text message on my husbands phone from a number not in his contacts, It said ' Your face when I got out my dildo out made me cum.' as you can imagine i was totally horrified. He grabbed te phone rigyht off me went into the bathroom and deleted the message the reappeared saying he must of got the message as he when on a porn site the night before. on his i-phone. He expects me to believe this im just devistated as we have 3 young boys 4 3 and 1 . Then yesterday he got a text from a customer saying i made you a bacon sandwich on friday but i did not know your new address to deliver it too xxx i could be inocent but the 1st message has made me paranoid.
I love him dearly but he works long hours and we have just bought a new house so we are both under stress we have little family time together

[maleview70]

If he has iPhone and you can access it then go into

Settings/safari/advanced/website data.

This will show you all the sites he has been on unless he has deleted them which most people don't because they don't know about it.

It may back his story up.

If not I would say "ok I want to believe you but show me what site you were on and show me how they send a text to you."

It's very suspicious and if he is self employed builder/tradesman opportunity will come his way from time to time.

[katty19]

Ok I'm going to look at his phone when he gets back tonight as what you are describing is quite hard to find in the phone if you don't know. I agree it could be from a website but he must have had online sex for them to send one ?

[PeppermintPasty]

maleview I have an iphone and when I go to safari I don't get anything saying "advanced" or anything like that. I am a bit lo-fi but how do I get to the advanced bit?!

[runmumrun]

scroll down, 'advanced' should be at the very bottom of the safari page, open that and 'website data' is next page opened

[PeppermintPasty]

Thanks. Nothing here though. The last thing at the bottom of the safari page says "developer", and above that "clear history/clear cookies/clear cache". Odd.

[Abitwobblynow]

Where is settings? I have clicked on the apple and 'Safari' and don't see settings.

[Abitwobblynow]

System preferences also. I am very lo fi you have to explain as to a moron. Like 'look in the bottom right hand corner'.

[Abitwobblynow]

I have a mac book, he has an ipad.

So how do I find it on an ipad?

[maleview70]

Maybe different versions have different setting tabs. Think mine is iPhone 4 though can be sure. Advanced on mine as at the very bottom o the page after safari.

[Zorra]

On an iPad it's settings -> under the connections etc theres a little icon of safari -> advanced -> website data. Unless they have turned on 'in private browsing' it should come up.

[Abitwobblynow]

Zorra have you left anything out! Like 'it is a little picture of a sun in the left top corner' (yes I am that bad). Took SEVEN attempts to set up my messages PIN and message on a blackberry this am! [Sigh]. The computer kept saying 'goodbye' (didn't have to add the 'you moron this is going nowhere and I am tired of repeating the same instruction').