Feel so overwhelmed and fed up with my first house but can’t talk about it

[housesarehardwork]

Hopefully I can have a moan on here without upsetting anyone. Feel free to have a moan too if you’re fed up.

I bought my first house last year after renting and savings for years, a great little bungalow. I’m very happy here. I love the house, the street, neighbours are nice and quiet. But, there’s always something wrong or something that needs fixing and it’s really getting me down. I feel so overwhelmed with it all. I don’t have a partner to talk or to help / pay towards things. It’s all on me and it’s so fucking expensive too!

The house was previously a buy to let and it’s obvious with cheap, botched jobs that need doing again. I had a survey but there were lots of little things that the surveyor didn’t pick up. There were things that I knew about but thought they could be done in a couple of years when I had more money but they actually need sorting now or at least in the next few months. I’ve already had a few issues fixed but the work was quite poor so I had to have it done again. It just feels never ending.

I can’t really speak to my family or friends as they think I’m ungrateful. Of course I’m grateful that I have my house own, especially at such a young age but it still doesn’t change the fact it’s stressful, expensive and overwhelming when you’re doing everything on your own. I keep trying to remain positive but it’s just one thing after another. It doesn’t help that people post their perfect houses on social media. I never had these problems when I rented and honesty didn’t care about living with old carpets, peeling paint etc, it just never bothered me. I’ve had a bit of a cry this afternoon which has made me feel slighty better.

I’m not sure what I’m expecting from this post, but if anyone has been in a similar situation and felt overwhelmed / underwhelmed by their first property it would be good to hear from you. Thanks x

Couldn't agree more with this. I've also just bought an ex rental and there are so many things that I keep finding that have obviously been a problem for years and because they've been left have just got worse. Sometimes it's just where people have left things uncleaned for so long the dirt has caused damage.
The great thing about owning your own house and getting a few basic skills is that you can just fix things when they are minor problems and prevent most things building into major issues.

Just remembered something cool.

A while back, my toilet started making a thudding noise every time I flushed it. Me, single female, had not a clue what was wrong with it. So I googled it. Watched a video. Opened up my toilet. Figured out a part needed replacing. Ordered said part. Fitted it in myself. Toilet worked again!

And I did it all myself. Honestly, YouTube is a god send when you have a house.

YADNBU

Probably you can get the hang of knowing what you're doing and even maybe enjoying it, OP. Give yourself time. It turns out I lack those skills myself and don't expect to ever get to a competent place with them, but I think most people have the ability or can get there.

Hang in there. x